Wedding planning...

ShallowSeas · May 2014

is ridiculous. I just had a 20 minute long email conversation with FI about paper fans.

"What colors?"
"How many?"
"What sizes?"
"You want different sizes?! My OCD is screaming no"

PAPER FANS, YA'LL. Apparently its that big of a deal. -_-

Peaseblossom55 · May 2014

Last week or so FI found an Oriental Trading catalog that got sent to our house, so we was looking at the wedding stuff and found all of this cool stuff he wanted to buy- like little bells for the place cards, monogrammed napkins. He was like why didn't you tell me about all of this stuff before, why don't we add this on... sigh... I said go ahead buy it fine by me...

I was thinking way to come into the game at 9th innning and try to change the game plan...lol. I told him to buy the stuff I don't know if he has...

Yea it's strange the conversations you have with your FI whle wedding planning.

ShallowSeas · May 2014

@peaseblossom55 I wanted to find something to hang from the pipe and drapes that will be behind us during the ceremony so I found these and was going to order them in the mint and dark teal color but FI was sooooo concerned because they are different sizes and he's not sure how it will look. I'm like, its not that big of deal.

Peaseblossom55 · May 2014

@severmilli that's funny, it's really strange what guys get hung up and what they don't care about during this part of the process.

carliealissa · May 2014

And then for me I'd be like, I can MAKE these fans! Enter a millionth ridiculously time consuming project...

doubleSS07 · May 2014

I think the different sizes and colors will look great for what it's worth! The only thing my husband had a strong opinion on was his tie. Nothing else, just the tie.

ShallowSeas · May 2014

carliealissa said:

And then for me I'd be like, I can MAKE these fans! Enter a millionth ridiculously time consuming project...

Funny you mention that, because that thought totally went through my head. I even looked up tutorials on how to make them and was like "I could totally do it" but I have so many other DIY stuff to get done for the wedding so I opted for the easy way out

ShallowSeas · May 2014

Peaseblossom55 said:

@severmilli that's funny, it's really strange what guys get hung up and what they don't care about during this part of the process.

haha right? Everything else he was like, "Yeah I like that, go ahead and do it/buy it" but with these he had SO many questions. He ended up being okay with the different sizes so I just ordered them

ShallowSeas · May 2014

doubleSS07 said:

I think the different sizes and colors will look great for what it's worth! The only thing my husband had a strong opinion on was his tie. Nothing else, just the tie.

I really like the different sizes but FI wasn't so sure, so I actually made a picture in Paint showing him how I would arrange them haha. He was fine with it after he saw it.

eilis1228 · May 2014

LOL men can be so weird. BF has said a few times he doesn't care much about the details of the wedding, but he's adamant that purple be one of the colors and he wants a head table at the reception. We're not even officially engaged yet, but he's already thinking about those things?! Ooooook then.

For what it's worth, it sounds like the fans are going to be really pretty! It's sweet that your FI is helping with the wedding planning in some capacity, even if he does drive you crazy while doing it.

ShallowSeas · May 2014

@weewittlewizabeth FI was already coming up with ideas before we were engaged too. I was like "umm, if you want to talk about our wedding, then I'm gonna need to be engaged...

" He has been really active in planning the wedding which I am so thankful for. He's the one who picked out our colors and he's helped me with everything else, aside from my dress. I definitely would not want to be planning all this without his help, its just funny to me that he takes this paper fan thing so seriously

eilis1228 · May 2014

severmilli12 said:

@weewittlewizabeth FI was already coming up with ideas before we were engaged too. I was like "umm, if you want to talk about our wedding, then I'm gonna need to be engaged... " He has been really active in planning the wedding which I am so thankful for. He's the one who picked out our colors and he's helped me with everything else, aside from my dress. I definitely would not want to be planning all this without his help, its just funny to me that he takes this paper fan thing so seriously

Preach!

He sounds like a keeper for sure

bethsmiles · May 2014

I don't have much to add except that I love the fan idea!

Dignity100 · May 2014

My FI just comes up with odd ball stuff every now and again... he wants a specific cake knife/serving set. I was on the fence about a bridal party but he was insistent on a best man. He doesn't ask for much, so he'll get everything he asks for.

ShallowSeas · May 2014

bethsmiles said:

I don't have much to add except that I love the fan idea!

Thanks!! I thought it was a fun idea

[Deleted User] · May 2014

1. I love the fans and I think they will look BEAUTIFUL as a backdrop to your ceremony!

2. Guys are strange. You think their thoughts on wedding planning are funny? Wait until you start decorating a home together (if you haven't already). For the most part H leaves it up to me, but every once in a while he comes up with a strong opinion on something that comes from way out in left field. Kinda makes you wonder what else goes through their heads all day...

ShallowSeas · May 2014

@allusive007 thanks!!! I let FI decorate our bedroom on his own...it looks like a kids room. He has all his comic book stuff in there -_- He wanted to put some of it in the living room and I was like, "Um...no. You can have the bedroom

"

LizzyTish88 · May 2014

allusive007 said:
2. Guys are strange. You think their thoughts on wedding planning are funny? Wait until you start decorating a home together (if you haven't already). For the most part H leaves it up to me, but every once in a while he comes up with a strong opinion on something that comes from way out in left field. Kinda makes you wonder what else goes through their heads all day...

YES. YES. YES.

[Deleted User] · May 2014

allusive007 said:

1. I love the fans and I think they will look BEAUTIFUL as a backdrop to your ceremony!
2. Guys are strange. You think their thoughts on wedding planning are funny? Wait until you start decorating a home together (if you haven't already). For the most part H leaves it up to me, but every once in a while he comes up with a strong opinion on something that comes from way out in left field. Kinda makes you wonder what else goes through their heads all day...

Definitely this! H has had a few strong opinions about how certain things should look in the new house. For example, we have some space upstairs for an office and he is adamant about putting a couch there next to his desk...ok lol. I don't see how we could arrange it to look nice but I don't think I can negotiate with him on whether or not we even put it there lol. And also, the garage is apparently his...he wants to arrange it haha.

BreMR · May 2014

When we moved in together he wanted to do a casino theme in our living room..... I shuffled it into his bathroom

He's also been saying that he trusts my judgment 100% on wedding planning, but only requests Chipotle as our wedding food. Uhh.... am I allowed to veto that? I lOOOVE Chipotle, but... that seems like an odd wedding food. Maybe a late night snack.

Dignity100 · May 2014

@BreMR - Could you do like a late night Chipotle buffet after some dancing/fun has been had?

BreMR · May 2014

@dignity100 it's definitely on my radar! I haven't done enough research yet. It's weird we're engaged but I've been so cautious about not pushing the marriage thing for so long that I feel like I'm approaching a timid deer with planning!!

ShallowSeas · May 2014

BreMR said:

@dignity100 it's definitely on my radar! I haven't done enough research yet. It's weird we're engaged but I've been so cautious about not pushing the marriage thing for so long that I feel like I'm approaching a timid deer with planning!!

That was so me!!! FI had been talking about marriage for so long before we were actually engaged and I made sure I did not give in to it until I had ring so when I actually did have a ring and we started planning it was so hard to get out of that mindset!

lmcooper86 · May 2014

@BreMR I love the idea of Chipotle as a late night snack

Know what you mean about the timid deer...I'm trying to figure out what he actually cares about, he keeps saying "we can do whatever you want" and I am NOT falling down that rabbit hole!

doubleSS07 · May 2014

Yeah hubby gets pretty much no say in the design aspect of our home. I was also in interior design for 6 years so I'm pretty forceful with that. I make sure he is ok with color schemes but I do all the space planning, sizing of furniture and décor stuff. Our compromise is that the house we are building has a larger garage and a loft space upstairs that he can use as his "trophy", "sports" man spaces. I get everything else haha. If he had his way, his full size electronic dart board and lifesize cardboard cut out of Michael Jordan would be in the living room!

BreMR · May 2014

@lmcooper86 his mom jokingly said "we just need to tell him when and where to show up " and he said 'pretty much.' However, I think it will be much like severmilli's FI and he will have random things he will want and object to.

loves2shop4shoes · May 2014

Welcome to the insanity that is wedding planning.

When I was planning my wedding, DH and I settled on getting cupcakes from Georgetown Cupcake instead of a wedding cake. My brother gave me SO much shit about it, saying cupcakes were for a 5 year old's bday party, not a wedding.

Well, at my wedding, I witnessed him exiting the dessert line with a tray full of cupcakes, and one hanging out of his mouth, and afterwards he told me they were his favorite part of the meal.

He got the side eye for that one.

lmcooper86 · May 2014

@BreMR I think my FI doesn't realize that there are going to be things he cares about. I asked him if he cared at all about flowers, he said nope, not a bit. I was idly browsing through boutonnieres and found something nice that wasn't overly flowery and girly. I showed it to him and his response, word for word? "That looks like a bunch of bananas, I would never wear that". ARG!

BreMR · May 2014

hahaha!!! I love it. I am curious to know what type of boutonniere looks like a bunch of bananas?

lavenderfields13 · May 2014

I run ideas for the wedding by FI to make sure he's included in the planning but don't want to overwhelm him. He's not too keen on my centerpiece ideas. whatevs, this is MY day, I get to do whatever I want! just kidding of course. but I'm like seriously how much do you actually care about the centerpieces?? and he does sometimes have very strong opinions about decorating the apartment. I love that he does...but sometimes I'm just like...no..

Pepperally · May 2014

@leese19 - I'm the same way as far as not wanting to overwhelm him. We are getting married in October so we have to make decisions now. FI gets overwhelmed easily, so I've been sort of downplaying my excitement of the process but still trying to include him. I've told him everything I was going to do and book. I told him I was going to meet with a florist. He never asked if he could go or acted like he cared. So I went by myself. He had a meltdown that evening after I went...said he thought I had already booked the florist and didn't even ask him. I explained that I didn't think he'd have an interest in the flowers, and also I didn't book it, I went for a proposal. He said he didn't think I was enjoying the planning because I was doing everything so fast, but I explained that it is enjoyable for me to check things off of my list and makes me feel accomplished. So we are cool...for now. lol. And yeah, FI has a lot of input into décor of our place...he likes to feel included, and we love to go shopping together and decide on things together. So I get that he felt somewhat left out of the flowers.

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