Today is my RSVP deadline--the "RSVP by" date on the RSVP cards. I've had a 50% response rate, and it really ticks me off. I expected some people would not RSVP via the card OR on time, but to spend so much money (between $100-150) on RSVP cards, pre-printed addressed (extra cost) RSVP envelopes, and even going the extra mile of putting postage there for them, too... UGGHH!
I understand that my peers who haven't done the wedding thing may not entirely realize how important it is to get the count accurate and in-advance for the caterer, and how many other things rely on this number as well, like number of centerpieces/flowers, linen rentals, favors, etc. And the lack of RSVPing was certainly higher among my friends than my family (but I STILL have family members who have not RSVP'd as well). Almost NONE of my friends RSVP'd. From several, I got the typical response of "I just haven't put it in the mail yet (which they still haven't done a week after asking them). The invitations went out a bit early (people expected them as our engagement was so long--over 2.5 years), so they've had 2.5 months to respond. I today even had to ask my bridal party individually if their +1's were coming even after specifically telling them I do need their RSVPs; obviously my bridesmaids/groomsmen are coming, but what about their S.O.'s?
The response of "I don't know if I'm working" annoyed me less than people who knew one way or the other and were just to lazy to write a checkmark and put the envelope in the mailbox. I understand people have jobs, but if you're waiting for your schedule less than a month out, I see how high up I am on list of priorities (not that I think my wedding is of great importance to other people or "the wedding of the decade"--but I'm supposedly their friend...a little courtesy? Do you even WANT to come? If not, just tell me no right off, whatever). You had 3 months to ask off work. I know, however, how bosses can be, so like I said, it didn't bother me as much, but still GRR!
So anyway, that is my rant, but primarily I am not posting to rant, but because I am curious if my 50% rate of RSVP differs from most or is this typical? ***What was your RSVP rate?***