So, was it wrong of me to have a talk with one of my BMs who has been completely absent from my life throughout this whole planning process? She is a new mom--BUT BEFORE you bite my head off, understand a few things:
-I haven't asked or expected anything from her, except for anything a regular person/friend would do: maybe just a FB message saying hi, or text asking me how I am doing (not ONCE in a year).
-I have reached out to her repeatedly and specifically just to ask her about her life, asking her how she is doing, how is motherhood, is she OK, etc.
-I haven't wanted to bother her or stress her out with wedding stuff because she is a new mom and has a lot going on
-When she got married, I was a BM and bent over backwards doing "extra" things for her, like going to fittings, helping HAND MAKE invites, going accessories shopping, etc. etc.
-Her sister was a new mom when she got married, and was so uninterested in my friend's wedding and made everything about the baby (like, to the point where her sister didn't trust her own husband to baby sit) and my friend left her own bach party in tears over it all
If it wasn't for all of these above factors, I wouldn't be so hurt that she hasn't once reached out to me, asked me how I am, just taken 2 seconds out of her day in the past year to text me! That is literally all I want--just show that you care a little bit! I am trying to be really sensitve to this new, important time in her life. We don't get to see each other much. We hung out recently and the ENTIRE TIME she never once said, "Hey how are you? How's the planning going?" Literally the entire time was centered around her and her baby. It was actually kind of weird/rude to not just say how are you.
I tried to bring this up in the nicest way possible, and she flipped out on me and, once again, made it all about herself and her baby ("you don't visit him enough, you don't care to spend time with him"...umm side note: I have visited as much as I can for someone who lives in another STATE and is planning a wedding on my own with no help/support from you!). I felt like I couldn't hold it in anymore. I feel like an important time in my life has been completely belittled by my "friend." She had HER turn, I was there for HER, and I am trying to be supportive with this new milestone in her life! Why is it so much to ask for a damn text in return. There has been SO much upsetting drama and stress and issues behind the scenes with our families that my fiance and I were not expecting with this wedding. But she wouldn't know, because she hasn't asked me! And every time I call her, it's to ask her how she is/how the baby is. UGh!