I need some advice. My future sister in law is my flower girls mother. The flower girl will be almost 5 years old at our wedding. The sister lives out of state, but was home for Thanksgiving. Mostly my future MIL and I talk and discuss the wedding details. My fiance's mother, sister and I planned to go flower girl dress shopping in December sometime when SIL was back in town. I haven't really decided on a dress style for her or given it a lot of thought yet. I still have to pick my bridesmaid dresses. Anyway, the sister text me yesterday that she had bought her daughters flower girl dress! I was a little speechless and a lot upset. I asked her to send me a picture of it, and at first she didn't want to in case I didn't like it. She can not return the dress either. I am just stunned that she bought the dress without discussing Anything with me! The only thing we had briefly discussed was that it be ivory to match my dress, that is it!
Her mother can sew, and we might be able to alter the dress to what I want. I am not sure what I want yet, but now I feel trapped into using this dress that I am not a fan of. I don't really know what to say to her though to not make her feel like crap and get the future family mad at me. She is also going through a divorce and hard times right now, so I feel a little bad. It is MY wedding though...