I have a problem and I need some help with solving it. I do not like small children, I don't like holding babies, listening to them cry, or tripping over other people's kids. I have always wanted a kid free wedding no questions asked and am now running into problems. I am an only child and grew up very close to all of my cousins, there are 10 of us. Of that 10 there are only two of us that are not married and do not have kids. Due to costs and simply not wanting kids there to cry through the ceremony or run crazy at the reception I was set on an adult only event. Recently I went to my family Christmas party and was told by two cousins that when they got my Christmas card their kids were upset because they thought my fiance and I had gotten married already and they weren't invited (the picture was us at my best friend's wedding). They are all getting to the age where they will remember if I do not include them but that doesn't change the fact that I'm not big on kids at all. The venue I want is a ski lodge in the winter, so no, it will not be an open outdoor area for kids to run and dinner is $55/head so adding the 30 kids is a lot. My fiance also has two nephews, one of which will be two and is already a little shit and he wants them there.
My question is do I suck it up and invite all kids even if I REALLY don't want them there? Or can I set an age limit (as in over 5yrs) but then that alienates the only kids on his side. I'm to the point of just eloping right now!!!