I have to vent! I'm visiting my family for Christmas. I've been here a week and I don't leave until Friday. Honestly, things have been going pretty well. Everyone's been getting along, no arguments. It's all good. But of course I can't make it through two weeks without everything blowing up.
On Friday my younger brother decided he was going to drive to a town 3 hours away to help a friend move. Usually, fine, no big deal. But there was a winter storm warning in place for Saturday Night into Sunday afternoon. My mom told him that he should aim to be back on Saturday because of this. But of course, he didn't come back on Saturday. So my mom was not happy with him or his girlfriend when she woke up this morning. I don't know what she texted them but my brother's response was "It wasn't my choice" Which is pretty much bullshit because they took his car.
Well he got back half an hour or so ago when my parents were out running an errand. I came downstairs and just mentioned that mom wasn't very happy so it'd probably just be easier/cause less drama if he just apologized when they got back. My mom has a huge anger problem but honestly, this morning she just seemed more annoyed than angry so if my brother could keep his huge anger problem under control than this wouldn't need to be a big thing.
But of course, he can't keep his anger problem under control. He starts yelling about how controlling she is (yeah, she meddles but her and my dad paid for all of our college and living expenses, they get to be a little controlling IMO) and he can't stand her blah, blah, blah. Then he says he's just going to leave and drive back up to college now (which 9 hours away). I said I didn't think that was a good idea because mom and dad could just pull all their finances. He then states that he's just going to drop out of college then because he doesn't need it to be a cop (he's majoring in criminal justice and psychology). I said I didn't think dropping out was a good idea (he has TWO semesters left) because it's really hard to get a job right now. So then he starts screaming at me about how I'm a bitch and can't tell him how to live his life (totally mature, right? He's totally ready to be out on his own) and asks me where the hell my master's degree got me and storms out of the house.
In hindsight, I guess I should have just let it blow up on it's own instead of trying to keep the peace. I'm just so over my brother's attitude though. He feels so entitled to all the generosity my parents have shown us. They spent so much money so he could do all the sports he wanted to growing up, paid for 100% of my college, his college, and our living expenses while we were in college. He honestly thinks they just owe him all of that financial support. He has zero appreciation for anything they do. And yeah, my mom has a temper and there were a few years (when she was going through menopause) that it was really bad but the past few years have been a lot better. But he thinks he knows everything so any advice my parents give him, he freaks out about because it's not what he wants to do and they are too controlling, blah, blah, blah.
I'm also sick of his verbal abuse towards me. He often calls me a bitch or makes rude comments about my weight. He's always been like that, to the point where I wouldn't be surprised if he was abusive in his relationships, because he has no control over his temper. And honestly, if he cuts my parents out of his life, I have no problems cutting him out of mine. I won't be the person to help dig him out of his poor decisions
TLDR: My brother's an asshole and is causing all sorts of drama at home and I'm over it!