My FSIL is having a bridal shower. (her sister is her MOH, and is hosting it, along with the other bridesmaids.) Yesterday, she told me her MOH is hiring a caterer, but her bridesmaids are a little peeved about the cost. (It will come to $100 per person). FSIL asked me if it was poor etiquette. My step-mother was there and is so critical of me, so I didn't venture into the etiquette blunder. I, only, told her that this time is for her to have fun, she is the guest of honor, so she shouldn't worry about the party and her bridesmaids are grownups and will figure it out, between themselves.
I remember thinking exactly like them. "My sister wants it to be special" (were the same thought process, before I came here). It sounds like her sister did not talk to any of the bridesmaids about their budgets. Should I not really offer etiquette advice since I don't know her too well, and it isn't even her who is creating the breach? Her sister is telling her this is what it means to be a bridesmaid, and I think she believes her.