I am a pretty laid back person, but I swear my bridesmaids will turn me into a bridezilla. Like everyone else, I want my wedding (both planning and day of) to run smoothly and be drama free. Instead of having a maid of honor I will be having a man of honor- my brother, and so far 2 of my bridesmaids will be two of my cousins. I also am debating asking one of my very good friends, more on that later.
A little background, my fiancee currently lives in Canada and we got engaged while I was visiting him over spring break. As soon as I got back into town my friend texted me and asked when we could get together and said that if I needed help with anything to just let her know. It took my two cousins (who I half wanted and half felt pressured to have as my bridesmaids) almost a month to reach out to me, and it was mostly because I said something to my mom who then told their mom, who I am sure then said something to them.
When I first asked my cousins, they were excited even though I know they were expecting it. One of my cousins asked if the bridesmaids could wear long dresses. I politely told her that I want them in short dresses because we will be getting married at the end of July. They then asked if I was going to have any other bridesmaids, I told them that I was thinking of asking my friend. As soon as I said my friends name they both looked at each other, then one of my cousins looked at me and said that if I don't want any drama, I better tell me friend to not talk (they think that she talks a lot- which she does, but I love her and she has always been here for me), and that I should seat her at a different table. I didn't say anything at the time because I was half in shock, and half fuming on the inside. The next time I saw them they started up as well about my friend. Now I don't know what to do, I want to ask my friend, but I really can't handle any of the drama that is going to come with it. I have enough on my plate with planning a wedding and trying to figure out immigration stuff (I will be moving to Canada). Any advice is greatly appreciated!!!