You guys have been super helpful before with invitation etiquette (I changed my invites based on the advice here and am SO glad I did!), so hopefully you ladies have some insight here.
A large portion of our guests are first generation immigrants who have "Americanized" their first names and I'm not sure how to approach addressing them. I have two different types of guests that I'm confused about :
Example 1 : Total name change -- i.e. Ziyi Zhang on her ID, but goes by Jessica Zhang socially and professionally. My instinct her is to use the Americanized name as that's what she's known by.
Example 2 : More like a nickname -- i.e. Kalawatti Singh going by Karla Singh, or Samir Amin going by Sam Amin. My instinct here is to use the proper/legal name.
It's easy to know that Joe should be Joseph or Jen should be Jennifer if those are their legal names, but I feel like it's a little more fraught in those cases. I may be/probably am over thinking this though.
If it was just one or two people I'd just phone/email and ask what they prefer, but it's literally 2/3rds of my FI's family and a significant portion of our friends as well. Is there a good rule of thumb to go by that I'm just missing? My FI's advice is to "just go by whatever's on facebook" which is adorable but useless
