Sadly, the hardest part about planning my wedding has been my bridesmaids. I carefully chose my 4 girls who I wanted to have at my wedding. A few of them expected to be chosen, & one of them even practically begged me to be a bridesmaid. This friend who begged to be a bridesmaid, has basically fallen off the earth with a new relationship & has not been there as a friend, or a bridesmaid claiming she's always busy (I think she should at least be able to make time to be a bridesmaid since she asked to be one). Another bridesmaid has missed bridal dress appointments & has also been a terrible friend since I had gotten engaged.
My biggest problem however, is I had asked a high school friend who I remained close with over the years to be a bridesmaid. She lives in Vancouver (& I'm in Edmonton, AB). She was so excited to be asked & said she'd for sure love to come. However, about a month ago, she called me saying she doesn't know if she'd be able to make it for the wedding (and her speech sounded very scripted & practiced), she was having financial difficulties & her boyfriend was expecting her to pay for his flight & she couldn't afford the flight herself, or the dress ... etc. So, I had asked one of my fiance's friends to be a bridesmaid instead, seeing as she has been on my wedding train since day one, even planning wedding dress appointments for me & being an overall delight. However, a few weeks ago, my friend from Vancouver messaged me saying now she thinks she can make it. I had replied saying I had asked someone else, but I'd love it for her to still make it to my wedding. Somehow, she did not understand my text & still thinks she's part of the party. I've avoided her texts & calls playing it off as busy now, & I'm not sure what I should do.
A coworker said to just leave the situation as it is, (since now I apparently have 5 bridesmaids & fiance has 4 groomsmen) & made a good point in case someone else backs out. I've also been super tempted to fire a few bridesmaids also.
Has anyone else out there experienced trouble Bridesmaids & how did you handle it? Did you lose friends over bridesmaids situations?