I just need to vent for a moment, since all is said and done and I don't plan on doing anything about it.
Word got back to me that a friend of mine was upset that she wasn't invited to my Bachelorette Party.
A couple of weekends ago, I had my Bachelorette Party which my two local bridesmaids offered to throw for me. They had asked me for ideas of what I would like to do and who I would like to invite. The decided agenda and activities consisted of going to the nearby big city, have a themed dance class (Michael Jackson, whoo!), then get dressed up for a nice dinner out at a restaurant I've always wanted to go to, followed by going to some neat bars I had also always wanted to check out. Then we would spend the night in the city at the hotel and have breakfast the next morning. Perfect.
Locally, there's a group of friends that consist of 9 girls. We will all get together for big events, but most of the time we form smaller of pockets of friends when it comes to hanging out more often. Some of us are closer to some than others. And I didn't want to invite everyone to my Bachelorette. I wanted to keep the guest list small and intimate. No more than 5 or 6 people, not only for logistical reasons (we only needed one hotel room, easier to fit less people in an Uber or cab, easier to get into the bars), but I'm just not as close with some of the other girls. And some have big, high-maintenance personalities that I (and the other girls) did not want to deal with that evening. Since my other 3 bridesmaids lived out of town and wouldn't be able to attend, I opted to have my two local bridesmaids and two of my other girlfriends to whom I'm pretty close to. So this meant 3 girls in our larger group were not invited. I felt okay with this decision because I'm not as close with them, and the activities we were doing (dance class, the genre of restaurant) were not something those girls would have enjoyed--they've complained about taking a dance class at another BP in the past so I know they wouldn't have enjoyed it.
One of the girls who was not invited (I'll call her Sadie), found out the day of that we were out celebrating my Bachelorette, and started griping via text to one of the friends who I did invite. And Sadie supposedly complained and whined about it to the other two girls who were not invited (from what I heard, they didn't care so much). Sadie is the type of girl who feels like she needs to be included in *everything* and hates missing out on social events. But she can't seem to understand that she is not going to be invited to everything--especially since a lot of us can only take her in small doses. She claimed she wanted to buy me a drink to celebrate. When the friend she was complaining to suggested "We could always get together for a Happy Hour at a later day, if you want." Sadie replied with "I don't think so. She's made it perfectly clear how she feels about me." Yet Sadie does countless events and activities and doesn't invite me or most of the other girls to half of those. And we've never complained about it.
TBL: I wanted a small BP with my nearest and dearest, which meant I didn't invite everyone. And I'll be honest: I didn't want Sadie there. She complains a lot, is high maintenance, and would be shoving shots in everyone's faces all night. I specifically told the girls that for the BP I did NOT want to do shots and wake up feeling awful the next morning. So yes, Sadie. You weren't invited. For a reason. But accept that you won't be invited to everything.