sorry if I posted this in the wrong section...
My parents graciously offered to pay for a tent for my wedding. (Originally it was going to be inside their house, but we ended up adding some more people to the guest list)
I know the rule of thumb is that it's "their money, they get a say." But what if that goes against etiquette?
My parents want us to have a head table that fits 8 people. This would be us and our 6 member wedding party. This means all s.o's will be separated. Isn't this rude/against etiquette? Our social groups aren't mutual friends. None of the s.o's know each other.
(Not to mention, I find head tables tacky and it would make me more nervous facing everyone while I ate. I am NOT a social person)
My parents are making me feel like a bridezilla for trying to put my foot down on this. I tried explaining to them that it could make our guests feel uncomfortable by sitting with no one they know. Not everyone is super social (I'm already nervous about my FI Friends wedding as he's the best man. I really hope we're still sat together because I get a bit of social anxiety. I don't know anyone other than my FI and bride and groom. As a guest, honestly I'd feel pretty crummy/anxious during dinner which makes me sick to my stomach and not able to eat. I don't want anyone at my wedding to feel like this )
Is this a battle I should let go or keep pressing to not have a head table (my alternative is to just have another round table and not split up couples. We would be sitting with the immediate family and the bridal party will be at other tables with their partners. Much like the original set up when it was inside)
Do they get the ultimate say because it's their money or does etiquette win this?