I came across this article while pretending I don't need to get up and wanted to share it with you all.
Not getting a wedding invite to a loved one's big day can sting, but it can often be rationalized. Maybe they're keeping things super small. Or they know attending their destination wedding would be too big of a financial burden on you. But in a recent wedding horror story posted on Reddit, one teen didn't make the cut to attend her aunt's wedding — because of her disability.
Redditor Zinogirl, who identifies herself as a 15-year-old girl, explained
in a postpublished on July 7, "I'm just very upset now because my aunt's wedding is soon and I learned that I can't go to the wedding because she didn't invite me. I have a physical disability and I need crutches but I can handle myself. The invitation to our family says my parents and my brothers [not me]."
She went on to explain that her aunt claims, "that the venue isn't friendly and comfortable for me."
My [15F] aunt [33F] didn't invite me to her wedding while inviting my brothers [18/13M] and other cousins.Non-Romantic
submitted 15 days ago by Zinogirl
I'm just very upset now because my aunt's wedding is soon and I learned that I can't go to the wedding because she didn't invite me. I have a physical disability and I need crutches but I can handle myself. The invitation to our family says my parents and my brothers.
My dad talked to my aunt and she thought that the venue isn't friendly and comfortable for me and that's why she didn't invite me. If that's the only reason, isn't that something I should decide? Maybe I can handle myself in that venue. Maybe my brother and dad will help me if I needed help. She excluded me because I have a disability. My parents told me that I need to understand that it's her wedding and she gets to decide who comes and I can't be upset and I should respect her decision. I told them that if she thinks I'm not good enough to be at her wedding then I don't want to see her or talk to her again but they tell me that I should continue to be a good niece and respect her and be friendly with her. I don't understand why?
Do I have a right to be upset and not wanting to talk to her again?
tl;dr: Aunt didn't invite me to her wedding because I'm disabled and she thinks I can't handle the venue. I'm very upset and don't want to talk to her again but parents tell me it's not a big deal and expect me to forget about it and act as it never happened.
In a
follow-up post Ziongirl published on July 19, said she had confronted her aunt, with her two brothers offering to boycott the wedding if an invite was not extended to their sis. The aunt insisted the lack of invite was for the teen's own comfort. As the post explains, "She said it's not pity it's genuine concern for my well-being. She doesn't want me [to] see other girls my age do the things I can't do and feel jealous and inadequate."
It's important to make your wedding day into something
you're comfortable and happy with. But achieving that should never require discrimination.
eta-the article instead of a link