I'd like advice for this situation, please. My brother has recently started going to therapy. He had my mom go to one of his appointments. My mom told me that not much happened at that appt except my brother had said he did something really really bad. But he wouldn't say what and she's afraid to ask him. A week ago, the three of us spent the day together. When my brother and I were alone, he told me that my mom said she was molested between ages 3-10 and he was trying to figure out who did that to her. I was surprised but didn't really have much to say at the time. My brother is pretty upset about this, he thinks it was her brother (I don't know why he thinks that, I don't), said this was probably a big factor in the fact that we grew up with trauma.
I feel like my brother overreacts, I don' think we had a traumatic childhood. And I was also molested when I was 3-4 and my brother doesn't know that. No one knows except my husband and I don't feel like I should have to tell my brother but I also feel like maybe that explains why it's not a huge deal to me. I went through years of therapy in my 20's and 30's and I feel like I've dealt with all of this. I do want to support him in his therapy, though. So he wants to talk about this, I don't really, because he thinks I'm in shock or something because I'm not reacting like he is.