My fiance and I got engaged in April of 2015--18 months ago. From the beginning we have been saying there will be no kids invited. This initially started because we wanted to keep numbers low, as many of our friends now have kids. The only exception is family, being our three nephews.
There is one invited couple in particular (who we know through other friends and mostly invited them because they invited us to their wedding) who we know to be pregnant, and her due date is just days before our wedding. When I never received an RSVP, I assumed they were not planning on coming, but went ahead and emailed her to ask if they were planning on attending. She asked if it would be okay if she brought her perspective three-day-old newborn to the wedding. I was shocked. My fiance and I debated for days on what to say. Today I finally told her that because we are not allowing other friends' kids to come, we feel that we should keep the wedding as 'no kids.'
I am by no means a bridezilla, and frankly keep my cool quite easily, but I can't help being upset at how snarky this girl got with me about it. She guilt-tripped me twice by saying things like how she "can't leave her teeny tiny brand new baby" with somebody else for the wedding (and frankly, I agree with this) and how she only asked because HER best friend (whose husband is a groomsman) is bringing HER newborn (which is not true).
Did I really say or do something wrong? I barely even know this person!