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  • Re: Friend being deployed. Should I still send invitation?

    Thank you for sending it! As a person who was deployed, its tough feeling like your home life is still spinning and you're on another planet basically. It's so nice to be thought of and I would have loved to receive an invite!
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  • Re: Help choosing men's attire!








    If the groomsmen are wearing traditional black tuxedos then they will of course be wearing black bow ties and white pocket squares. I would strongly strongly encourage your FI to wear trousers that match his jacket (note a black bow tie is still correct for a blue tuxedo). The groom can be further distinguish from his groomsmen by wearing a different boutonnière.


    Really?  I assume you are referring to what is technically sartorially correct, right?  But that's not the only way to wear a tux.

    I have been to a lot of weddings where the guys wore traditional neckties with their tuxes; My father, husband, and his GMs didn't wear bow ties, none of them like them.


    Yes I'm referring to what is traditional since that's how OP described it.


    traditional may have been misleading - i only meant to emphasize that while my FH may be wearing a nontraditional jacket, the groomsmen will be in black jackets and pants.
    mollybarker11
  • Re: Help choosing men's attire!



    CMGragain said:


    megtownxx said:







    CMGragain said:
    OK, I looked up the navy patterned tuxedo jacket.  While your FI has the right to choose what he wears, please encourage him to wear a standard black tuxedo jacket.  This thing is a fad, like polyester powder blue tuxedos in the 1970s.  He will look so much better properly dressed in a standard tuxedo.  Think James Bond.

    errrmmmmmmmm thanks for assuming you even know what the jacket actually looks like/what he likes/looks like/looks good in. many people may not have chosen his specific jacket for fear of looking too trendy, but he absolutely loves it, and isn't that what matters? when i put my dress on, i absolutely loved it. the goal is to be happy, not timeless. idgaf if he looks back on our pictures and thinks his jacket is dated. you know what's dated? my FFIL's gray tuxedo with tails, top hat and cane. you know what's timeless? their 30+ year happy marriage.

    thanks though.

    Well, you did post on the Etiquette board.  There are rules about men's formal clothing.  If you choose not to follow them, that is certainly up to you, but most people do like to know what is expected and traditional.  This is why I posted the men's black tie guide.  I was trying to help you, and I think that @mollybarker11 was trying to help you, too.  Attitude?
    Tuxedos do not have tails.  Never.  Your FFIL may have been wearing a proper cutaway, which is men's formal wear for a daytime wedding.





    Ultimately I hear you about the fact that there meaning behind  the terminology and what is considered traditional. The information is great, but were clearly not following traditional attire if im talking about ties and different colored jackets. Your information is fine but please don't comment on what you think someone else's SO "will look so much better in". It's just rude.
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  • Re: Help choosing men's attire!


    CMGragain said:

    OK, I looked up the navy patterned tuxedo jacket.  While your FI has the right to choose what he wears, please encourage him to wear a standard black tuxedo jacket.  This thing is a fad, like polyester powder blue tuxedos in the 1970s.  He will look so much better properly dressed in a standard tuxedo.  Think James Bond.


    errrmmmmmmmm thanks for assuming you even know what the jacket actually looks like/what he likes/looks like/looks good in. many people may not have chosen his specific jacket for fear of looking too trendy, but he absolutely loves it, and isn't that what matters? when i put my dress on, i absolutely loved it. the goal is to be happy, not timeless. idgaf if he looks back on our pictures and thinks his jacket is dated. you know what's dated? my FFIL's gray tuxedo with tails, top hat and cane. you know what's timeless? their 30+ year happy marriage.

    thanks though.
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  • Re: Invite your boss?


    SP29 said:

    My opinion is to only invite people you have a personal relationship with. So while I would invite my friends who I work with, I wouldn't invite my co-workers. Same with my boss- unless we had a relationship outside of work, or I considered my boss to be a personal mentor (discussing more than just the daily work stuff), I wouldn't invite them.


    i really appreciate this perspective...makes total sense, thank you
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