Dear Prudie,
I’m a 29-year-old woman in a happy relationship of five months with my boyfriend. We’re both professionals and he’s been living in my apartment for two months while he looked for affordable housing. We got along swimmingly under the same roof, but we weren’t ready to commit to living together and I told him I wouldn’t move in with someone without a ring on my finger. I just helped him move into his new apartment and he has a pretty, smart, young woman as a roommate. My heart sank when I saw her. My boyfriend often tells me I’m beautiful, but my inner worrywart is in crisis mode. I had cancer as a teenager. My last boyfriend ditched me for another girl at work. I have insecurities about being with someone I can depend on. I told my boyfriend that I’m always waiting for things to fall apart, because for me they always seem to. I don’t want to be an insecure, possessive girlfriend but I’m not sure how to deal with this. Just see how it goes? Or express my concern in some way that won’t make me seem like I’m a nag?