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BM & GM not walking together

How do I make this happen? I've been to a couple weddings where they didn't walk down the aisle together but don't remember how it was done.

Would I have the gm just already standing up front and have the girls walk down alone, or have them all walk down alone. Same for leaving?

I posted yesterday about my moh jealous hubby and while I think he's an immature aw, Id like everyone to be happy and comfortable, and don't really care much about how they all get down the aisle. So I figure this is a good compromise, just not sure how to do it the right way.

Re: BM & GM not walking together

  • emmaaaemmaaa North Carolina mod
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    I've seen it done a couple of ways. The guys can walk in from the side and kind of be up there already and then the girls up the aisle (or the other side and they can be waiting too). Then they just walk out separately down the aisle.  

    Or each member can walk up alternating boy-girl and get into their spot up front and leave spearately. 


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  • holyguacamole79holyguacamole79 a taco truck in Houston member
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    How do I make this happen? I've been to a couple weddings where they didn't walk down the isle together but don't remember how it was done.

    Would I have the gm just already standing up front and have the girls walk down alone, or have them all walk down alone. Same for leaving?

    I posted yesterday about my moh jealous hubby and while I think he's an immature aw, Id like everyone to be happy and comfortable, and don't really care much about how they all get down the isle. So I figure this is a good compromise, just not sure how to do it the right way.

    First off, unless you're getting married on a beach, it's aisle, not isle. And ditto emma. I think having the guys wait up front is the best bet.
  • lyndausvilyndausvi Western Slope, Colorado mod
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    I've seen the guys at the altar waiting for the ladies to walk down. They just walk along the side to get there. I've never seen them leave separately though. It's long enough to watch them all leave, I would be annoyed to see them all leave separately. Just a waste of time.






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  • Sorry didn't realize I used the wrong spelling. Wasn't really asking for grammar advice, but now I know that too
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  • I was a bridesmaid in a wedding this summer. The groom and his groomsmen walked in from the side and waited for all the bridesmaids (and of course the bride) to walk down the center aisle. Each bridesmaid walked in on her own. We did exit as pairs, but I think you could do alternating or bridesmaids or groomsmen first if that's preferred. Also, your poor MOH. What a ridiculously immature husband to be concerned about her simply walking in a processional with someone. Wow. That guy needs some therapy. My sympathies for you having to deal with that kind of a shit-show of a relationship.
  • princessleia22princessleia22 Oceanfront Property in Arizona member
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    At my wedding, all the guys were already up front and just the girls walked down the aisle.  We did have them walk out in pairs. We had more girls than guys, so we now have an awesome picture of the best man looking like a stud with a bridesmaid on each arm as he escorted them back down the aisle. But, you could have them walk out alone. I'd probably alternate with one girl, then one guy, and back and forth. The problem with this is that if you have large wedding party, walking individually could take longer than needed. Or they could go in pairs just walking beside each other without them actually touching.  Or you could tell her husband to just suck it up and stop being a jealous ass.

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  • We also had the guys up front already. The minister, groom, and groomsmen were up front when the ceremony started. When it ended, they walked out single file. We went, then they followed. First, my matron of honor, then a groomsman, then bridesmaid, then groomsman, and so on.
  • We had the GM walk down the side with the groom & then my girls walked by themselves down the isle. Then they walked out together.
  • We had our groomsmen take their places on their own (they were also ushers, so they were already out chatting with guests). After they took their places, the officiant took her place, introduced herself, asked people to take their seats and silence their phones. Then the first song started and the grandparents walked out, then the groom and his parents. Then a song change and the 3 bridesmaids walked out. Then a song change and I walked out with my parents. For the recessional, everyone walked out single file after us - bridesmaids, then groomsmen, then parents. It really didn't take any longer than if they had walked out together. Just don't have them wait too long between each one leaving the front. It doesn't have to me a slow, plodding, recessional just because they are single file.
  • Most of the weddings I've been to recently did not have the BM and GM process in together. The GM came in from the side with the groom and officiant. 
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  • groomsmen entered solo and bridesmaids were escorted by bridesmen. 
  • Jen4948Jen4948 Houston member
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    I've never seen a wedding where bridesmaids and groomsmen walked in together. Either the groomsmen were already at the front of the area, or they processed in before the bridesmaids.

    They usually do pair off for the recessional. If that's going to bother your MOH's husband, he needs to grow up and get over it. But you don't have to have them pair off. It's up to you.
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