I mailed wedding invitations out a few weeks ago and I found out my future mother in law is not happy with the way I did the invitations. She's upset because my parents are the only names listed on there and not the grooms parents. The thing is, the groom side isn't contributing anything...The father is divorced with his mom and remarried and doesn't have a great relationship with my fiance. Not only is he not contributing, he's not even planning on attending the wedding (which was his choice, since we did extend an invite to him). The mother also isn't contributing anything at all, nor am I asking her to. But since we started planning this wedding, she wants things done her way as if she were helping to pay for it. I find this to be very frustrating, especially since I've been nice in trying to keep her updated on my plans with the wedding, which I know I do not have to do.
When I made the invitations, I reviewed them with fiance and he approved. It wasn't until he spoke to his mom and found out she was upset, was when he said his moms name should have been on there. Which made me more upset because he was fine with it until he spoke to her. He's not really stressing it, but she is clearly not happy and I'm currently mad at the both of them because I feel like all of this is unnecessary stress, and it's not fair.
I looked up a few etiquette tips online about this, and I got some mixed feedback. However a lot of sites agreed that whoever is hosting/paying for the wedding is who's name should be listed...at the end of the day, this shouldn't even be a big deal! but It's still frustrating to have her be upset, because after all she's his mother, and I'm trying to keep a good relationship, but I feel like it's impossible to please her. Was I wrong for not including his parent's name?