Wedding Party

Not a Bridesmaid, But I'm Part of the Bridal Party

One of my friends is getting married and I was not asked to be a bridesmaid. The bride reached out to me to tell me that she wants me to join in on the bachelorette party and if it would be okay to pass my number along to the MOH. I told her yes and I'm now a part of this bridesmaid group chat.

The MOH started talking about buying decorations and games for the bachelorette party and she would let us know how much everything would cost in the end for people to help pay. I don't think I should contribute to that since I'm not a bridesmaid. I don't mind helping out if I need to buy a t-shirt for myself or paying for a hotel room if we decide to go out, but I don't think I should be putting out my money to help the bridesmaids buy decorations. I consider myself an "extra". Or am I wrong?...

Thoughts?

Re: Not a Bridesmaid, But I'm Part of the Bridal Party

  • You are not part of the bridal party. You're just being invited to a bachelorette party. 

    If you're ok with helping throw the party, it's fine to contribute. If you'd rather not, message the host directly and tell her you're happy to pay your own way for extras, but that you hadn't intended to co-host the party. It's rude of her to ask all attendees to contribute to the cost of the event, but she might think you'd offered. 
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