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So I guess I'm a bride now (lengthy, some vent, mostly woohoos)

As some of you girls know, I made an appointment last week at David's Bridal to start looking into (duh) wedding dresses. I knew it wouldn't be like the way they portray bridal fittings in "Say Yes to the Dress" or similar shows, but I had no idea it would be as different as it was.

For those of you who enjoy a novel-sized post, here's a basic rundown of everything that happened.

I made my appointment for 1PM. Since the store is in Hoover (a good hour plus from here), I decided that we should leave no later than 11:30, that way we could accomodate for anything stops along the way or traffic. Of course, we end up leaving about 10 minutes later than that, and my grandmother is the one to drive (since my mom and I both drive sports cars and there's no way all three of us could fit into either of them). Needless to say, grandmother drives like, well, a grandmother. We get there about 5 minutes before my appointment.

It was absolute crazy in that store!

Of course, we were told to expect that, it being a Saturday and all. But we made our way up to the welcome desk (read: folding table) and signed in. The woman was very friendly, and told us we could go ahead and start browsing the racks. I was told to pick three dresses to start out with, and that they would call my name when my consultant was available. We browsed the racks, picked out three dresses, and waited.

At 1:38, my name is called, and my consultant walked me and another girl to the back, giving us a little bit of a tour on the way (this is where our shoes are, bridesmaid dresses, etc. etc.). When we got back to where the "changing" rooms were, I started feeling queasy. The dressing rooms were sort of in square patterns, with four doors and four pedestals on each side. As we walked by, we saw four different brides with four different families, all standing within 2 feet of each other. Some brides' families had to stand, because another bride may have had more than 4 people with her and they would take chairs from either side to accomodate them. I was hoping for at least SOME kind of privacy.

After I get changed into my first gown, I came out rather reluctantly and let my mom and grandmother (as well as God and everyone else) look it over and tell me what they thought. It was a bit of a mermaid gown, nothing fancy, but with a little bit of texture and some beading. It really was pretty. After we finished looking it over, I went back into the fitting room, and waited about 10 minutes before [consultant] helped me out of that one and into my second one.

HERES WHERE THE VENT STARTS

The woman beside me was another bride of my consultant. I was told a couple of things when I made an appointment:

1. Nine times out of a ten, a consultant is working with 2 brides at the same time, but no more than two.

2. Your consultation lasts an hour and a half. If you need more time than that, they will schedule you an additional appointment for a later date at no additional charge.

At this point, the whole thing starts turning into a nightmare. There were kids. EVERYWHERE. I'm talking between the ages of 2 and 6. Many of them. Running all over the place, jumping up on the pedestals, jumping back down, sitting on them, rolling all over the floor, putting their hands all over the mirrors.

No joke, I came out of my room at one point with another dress on, and there were two girls under the age of 6 laying on the pedestal in front of my dressing room, scribbling on a catalog with pens. [Consultant] actually had to say "Excuse me, sweety, is it alright if I get right there?" This girl just looks at her, looks over to where her family is (to my right with a girl trying on dresses), then back to her scribbling.

The time between dresses started getting longer, and longer. Waited 15 minutes for one. 25 minutes for the next. 20 minutes for the next. If I could've taken them off myself, I would have.

This is when [consultant] ended up spreading herself too thin. I tried on a total of 6 dresses. I was heavily set on dress #5, so I tried it on one last time. At the same time, the girls on either side of me also had their dresses, and they went through the whole (Attention David's Bridal guests! This is (so-n-so) and she has found her dress!) thing where everyone whoops and hollers and they ring a loud bell. After she finished, she asked me about my dress (and she actually did the "Are you saying "yes" to this dress? thing, lol) and I told her I had found it. She said "Okay, give me just a couple of minutes to help my other bride [which was actually her 3rd] into her next dress, and I'll be back to celebrate.

I stayed in that dress for 45 minutes. I wanted to just change out of it, and into my regular clothes and just be done with it. But the one I chose had such a massive train that there was no way I was getting out of it by myself.

50 minutes in this dress, and [consultant] comes back, does the celebration things (yay, bell, woo), and tells me she'll be right back to help me out of the dress, just as soon as she gives some alteration paperwork to bride #4. I only lasted an additional 10 minutes before we said "forget it" and my mom helped me out of the dress. I have no idea how we managed, but we did.

Long story short, by the time we got me back in my regular clothes, got my paperwork and information from [consultant], stood in a long line to pay for everything, it was 5 o'clock. I was just ready to get home.

HERE'S WHERE THE WOOHOOs START

Bright side, I found my dress! We took some pictures, but they're on my mom's phone and we haven't uploaded them yet, but I found the dress on DB's website, so I'll post those for now.



Train details:


It's got a Cathedral train with lace details around the trim. I haven't decided on if I want to make it strapless, keep it the way it is, or add some sort of something to it. :)

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  • That sounds super frustrating but horary for finding a dress! It's really pretty. Once you get the pics uploaded I would love to see it on you :)


  • Woo-hoo!!!  I'm so happy you found your dress!! 
    Sorry your DB experience wasn't so good though.  I went there once with one of my girlfriend's when she was getting married and it was similar.  It was a weekday so it wasn't TOO crazy but there were kids all over the place.  One had chocolate all over his hands and face and got into the dresses.  The other thing I remember was that the consultant seemed to just be there to help the bride into the dresses - she never gave suggestions or even really asked opinions or anything like that. 
  • Insanely frustrating i would have walked myself out.  I went to DBs on a Friday night with FI and MOH.  Literally reaaaaly close to buying a dress but convinced myself to go try another shop to at least do comparisons.  But you made it though and with a dress you love!  Congratulations!  Now for shoes!!!!
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    Grats! I love the dress. Can't wait for pictures. Sad that it wasn't a better experience though. I'm going to be going dress shopping with my sister sometime soon and I hope it isn't like that.

    ETA: my older sister is recently engaged.
  • Wow that sucks you had such a horrible experience, I would have walked out so kudos to you & your patience. The 1 time I went to try dresses on there were 2 little girls running around the store, 1 actually tried to come into my changing room as I waited for my consultant to grab the next dress.  You can actually see the little girl in almost all of the pictures we took that day. 

    Anyways, CONGRATULATIONS!!!!!!!  That is so so exciting, I can't wait to see pics of you in the dress :)



  • Congrats on finding a dress! You have so much more patience then I do. I would have left. I went there with my sister when she was looking for dresses and was just getting irritated from that! At least the one by me they don't ring a bell and hollar when you find The Dress.

     

  • I went to David's bridal twice, both on weeknights because I heard that it can be sooo insane on weekends. 
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  • Gosh, I'm a tard I posted about David's and not YOUR AWESOME DRESS! 

    I love the detail, especially the train.  Congrats on finding THE ONES (the man and the dress)! :)
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  • The only reason I didn't walk out, is because I knew that, if at all possible, I needed to find a dress THAT day. I live in a small town in the middle of nearly nowhere, so I don't really have a lot of options (and, we had driven over an hour just to get there). I just wanted to get it and be done with. I just hope going back for fittings and stuff like that isn't equally as chaotic.
  • Congrats on the dress!!  I've heard mixed reviews on DB and have been told it largely depends on the individual location.  I had an appointment on a Saturday, and while it was busy, it wasn't nearly as bad as what you mentioned (although I did have to laugh at a girl who came in without an appointment on a Saturday afternoon and was pissed off that they told her it'd be an hour and a half before they could help them.  Seriously?  What did you expect?)

    My only advice is that when you go to pick up your dress, call ahead to make sure they have a room for you to try it on.  I had to wait a bit and they seemed a little annoyed that I wanted to try on my dress, but I'd be damned if I was going to sign the release that my dress was fine without trying it on and looking over everything.
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    edited January 2012
    Well, I'm sorry your shopping experience was so craptastic, but I like the dress you picked! Can't wait to see pictures of it on you!
  • Good grief! That sounds like my David's Bridal experience multiplied by 10. My consultant didn't even have a good excuse since there weren't many people in the store. I thought maybe she left me in dresses for 15 minutes to get me to fall in love with them, but 45 minutes, especially when you've decided you were going to get it is just ridiculous.

    On the plus side, YAY! for finding your dress! It's a beautiful dress and I can't wait to see pics of you in it! : )
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  • Gorgeous dress! Sorry about your DB experience. That place can get sooo crazy!
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  • What an annoying experience. I probably wouldn't have been able to stick it out. But... the dress is so gorgeous!
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  • csousa1csousa1 member
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    That is absolutely gorgeous!!!

    That does sound like a stressful dress excersion, but I can't say I'm surprised. It was like that when my mom and I went there with my sister for her dress - busy, distracting, not as private as you would like. The kids would have made me out of my mind though - I'd have side-eyed the shiit out of their parents when they didn't tell them to knock it off.

    I'm so glad you found the dress though! I can't wait to see pics of it on you!
  • you are more patient the i am but with that train on the dress it's worth it right ? i'd have walked out way before that ....with no dress.... i got a bridesmaid dress from there before and wasnt too impressed... having mixed feelings about going for my bmaids there .... might try alfred angelo instead......but anyway and besides that 

    again the train is amazing ! 
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  • Oh wow...well you have just decided one thing for me. When the time comes I'm going shopping on a weekday.

    I'm glad you found your dress!! It's beautiful and I can't wait to see pics of YOU in it!

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  • Aww, that looks like a lovely dress :) It sucks that the experience didn't seem to be all that great, but congrats on finding it.
  • I love your dress!!  I am sorry your experience sucked but please make sure you post pictures of YOU in it!!!
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  • In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_guess-im-bride-now-lengthy-vent-mostly-woohoos?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:136Discussion:3e36a0d2-abc4-4c04-9d17-b0b12f6be7aaPost:7ea91996-71cd-421f-8feb-f426d9666e1f">Re: So I guess I'm a bride now (lengthy, some vent, mostly woohoos)</a>:
    [QUOTE]I love your dress!!  I am sorry your experience sucked but please make sure you post pictures of YOU in it!!!
    Posted by ravenray[/QUOTE]

    <div>Lol, oh I will. :) Mom's at work right now, and I'll be leaving for work here shortly, so it may be tomorrow or later before I can get them off her phone.</div><div>
    </div><div>I'm hesitant about going there for BMs dresses. I don't need anything incredibly spectacular or in bulk (I only have 1 BM, lol), so we'll probably just settle for some department stores downtown for that. Glad you girls love it though! :)</div>
  • Beautiful dress Hulu! Congrats on finding the one. I second jemmini's comment... make sure you make an appointment to try the dress on when you pick it up. The bridal shop I got mine in only had two dressing rooms, so I ended up having to come back in to try it on.
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  • That experience sounds awful! I'm sorry it sucked, but the dress is beautiful! Can't wait to see pics of you in it!
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  • yay for finding a dress!

    boo for the experience it took to find it.

    I went to DB and had a great experience, but I have heard horror stories (and I actually bought my dress elsewhere... i just started my search there).  I tried on a bunch of different types and styles of dresses in a bunch of different stores and I never had a consultant or anyone help me into or out of a dress...except for lacing or zipping up the back, which didn't have to be done perfectly for the time being anyways, so I never had that problem :S
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  • wow what a great dress for you, sorry it was a frustrating experience getting there though.  My sister had an awful experience at DB too.

    Congrats again!

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  • Thanks for the DB tip haha!

    Your dress is very pretty; congrats!!
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  • Your dress is beautiful, these frustrating moments are what make life interesting. Congratulations!
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