MoB & MoG dresses

kjapan7

Hey Ladies,
My FMIL sent me a message today asking what color(s) I would like for her and my mom to wear, and I'm not really sure what to say. Our wedding colors are black and white with red accents. White/cream is out, I'd prefer if they didn't wear black (although I wouldn't mind if the dress wasn't predominantly black), and my MoH dresses (I have two ladies and they'll both be my MoHs) will be burgundy.
Any suggestions?

brookev11

They really can wear whatever color, but I would suggest red, champagne, black.  My colors are aqua, chocolate brown, khaki, and white, for my mom we are searching (it has been a long, fruitless search) for a chocolate brown dress.  I really do not want her wearing the exact color my BMs are wearing, but @ this point - anything that she finds I am happy with. 

bridesrighthand

Why don't you want black?  My mom  wore black and was gorgeous.  I agree that champagne would be good too.  Have them wear what the feel comfortable in.

aerinpegadrak

Just tell her that your colors are black, white, and red, and that your BMs will be wearing burgundy, and let her figure it out from there.

opalsky007

I agree with Aerin. There are so many fug MOB dresses out there, and so many nice ones that only come in a couple of colors. It can be unnecessarily limiting to pick a color--you get left with so few options!

samurai21

I'm just telling my mom and FMIL to wear whatever they want. They both know what is appropriate attire and I trust them. My FMIL is probably going to wear a formal pantsuit, and I think my mom is going to wear a navy and gold gown. Our colors are black, white, and crimson, so similar to yours. Bridesmaids are in black though, so that color doesn't bother me.

In short, if you don't want them in black then say, "Well, our colors are x, y, z. I'd prefer if you didn't wear black, but outside of that any color you're comfortable with is ok with me."

Minimax052910

I've been told that it's usually the bride's mother that picks the dress first for herself and then have her show the groom's mother the dress. (According to many bride books I've read).

Then the groom's mother (FMIL) can find a dress that'd would not appear overdress or underdress in comparison with the MOB.

Also, they can go with a different color that compliments your wedding color. It doesn't have to be red. For instance, my bridesmaids are wearing purple. My FMIL and my mother are wearing blue.

baystateapple

My colors are ivory and red, and my mother is wearing deep plum...they don't have to match exactly.  Let them wear what they're comfortable in.  Also, black looks really good on everyone, so you might want to be prepared to compromise on that one.