Maid's Expecting Weight Loss

applefreiter

One of my bridesmaids (a beautiful, voluptuous woman!) has mentioned several times that she is planning on losing weight before our wedding in May. I am doing everything I can to encourage her, (don't get me wrong, she could gain 20 lbs and still be beautiful in my eyes!) but her being a busy student - and considering her past efforts at losing the weight, I really doubt that there will be much of a change in the 5 months we have left - especially with the Christmas festivities.

She wants to purchase a smaller dress NOW, in hopes that she "might" fit it come wedding time. I don't think this is a smart desicion, and any alterations that would need to be done to the particular dress my maids have their eye on would be a massive change in order to accomodate her "girls." We all really like the dress - it's affordable, cute and definitely fits in with the wedding scheme.

I don't think it is wise to take this kind of risk, and truthfully, I am not willing to take a gamble with her expected weight loss. How do I suggest we wait - or select a different dress that can be more easily altered if her weight loss plans fall through? I don't want to be rude, but I don't want to put her, me and the other maids in a bad situation the week before the wedding.

Help!!

shortee426

Any smart bridal salon will not let her order in a smaller size.  They will order her the size she currently is.  Is there anyway you can afford her alterations if she needs them?  Perhaps you can offer to help with alterations cost if she does end up losing weight and encourage her to buy the size she is now.  Remind her it is always easier to take it in than let it out.  Also remind her that everyone's weight loss is different.  While it is possible to lose 20 pounds in 4 months, what if she is a slow loser? And everyone loses weight in different places.  It would be devastating to me if I lost weight and the smaller dress I bought still didn't fit.

NatandIsaac

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_attire-accessories_maids-expecting-weight-loss?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:15Discussion:adb13188-546c-40f5-b009-ce90606bb8c4Post:491bdfae-61da-4e67-840e-c0450033827b">Re: Maid's Expecting Weight Loss</a>:
[QUOTE]<strong>I would just suggest that she order the size she is now, and remind her that a dress can be taken IN much easier than it can be let out.  Let her know that it's because you think she's beautiful as she is</strong>, and you don't want her to be under any pressure for ANY reason due to your wedding. Then, leave it alone.  She's an adult and her one and only responsibility as a BM is to get the dress and walk down the aisle.  If she insists on buying a smaller size and doesn't lose the weight, then it's on her to get the massive changes done in time.  But if you push it, you will come across as not having faith in her ability or commitment to lose weight (even though that isn't what you are trying to say at all) and this will go from a minor WP dress issue to a major friendship issue in a hurry.
Posted by StageManager14[/QUOTE]<div>
</div><div>This is perfect. Also, people lose weight differently. Some women lose a lot in their butts, or stomachs, and the chest doesn't change much. Even if she is successful losing 20 pounds, her bust size might stay the same, so the larger dress is the safer option.

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tonyscutieest09

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_attire-accessories_maids-expecting-weight-loss?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:15Discussion:adb13188-546c-40f5-b009-ce90606bb8c4Post:349009c4-1b7d-437a-8058-b70ec197e751">Re: Maid's Expecting Weight Loss</a>:
[QUOTE]Any smart bridal salon will not let her order in a smaller size.  They will order her the size she currently is.
Posted by shortee426[/QUOTE]


Not true. My salon NEVER tells a customer what size she HAS to order. All we do is show her where she falls on the size chart, remind her it's easier to take in then let out, and point her in the right direction. But if a 16 wants a 10 we can't stop her.

BlueBoxBride

As someone who works in fashion, it's VERY unwise to estimate what size one will be after losing weight or how easy it will be.

Whenever someone says, "I'm going to be back after I drop ten pounds," it usually means that they won't be coming back. Unless you have a lot to lose, 10 lbs isn't easy.

Now, if she really wants to be stubborn about it... I would make it very clear that everyone is buying X dress and it is her responsibility to wear the exact same dress come wedding time. That means, if she buys a second dress or freaks out about alterations or can't walk down the aisle or works with a personal trainer 4x a week... it's all her decision.

If she's really serious about dropping some weight, I'll let you know my secret: boxing. Well, really boxing and spiro (clears your skin, makes you really skinny, lessens body hair and plumps up your breasts). But if she has naturally beautiful skin (lucky bia) then she won't be able to get her hands on spiro... Boxing at least burns 1000 calories an hour once you really get into it.