MIL dress

lovies21

My wedding dress is all lace with a little chiffon on the bust. My wedding colors are yellow and gray. My issue here is my FMIL is choosing a tight cocktail length lace dress in yellow to wear to the wedding. My mother is wearing a satin 3/4 length dress in beige. Yellow is my accent color and at this time I feel that it is inappropriate for my FMIL to wear my accent color in the same fabric as my wedding dress. She seems to think that she needs to match my bridal party. I don't. I feel as if she is trying to outshine me on my wedding day. Am I being ridiculous about this! Any advice would help!!

JaneAustensGhost

You are being ridiculous.   She's an adult and can wear whatever she wants.  And what is this "outshine" business?  Are you really so insecure?  You will be the center of attention, no matter what anyone else wears.  Just be gracious and chill out.

artbyallie

Yes, you are being ridiculous.

Didn't somebody on the boards have a MIL that actually wore her old wedding dress to the wedding? Liatris's comment reminded me of that. Unless she's pulling something like that, you can't say one word about what she wears.

AddieCake

My stepmother wore a long, ivory, sparkly dress to my wedding. It was the dress she wore to marry my father in several months before. I didn't like it, but I didn't say a word. 

B2Z728

Nobody is going outshine the bride on her wedding day unless they show up wearing a big ballgown wedding dress. My mom wore a beautiful long dress that was similar to the bridal party color, only a little bit darker, and it looked wonderful. She was glowing and happy in it, that's what mattered. 

ksblumb

Our colors are white and grey with some navy accents. The BMs are wearing navy, the boys are in lighter grey suits. My mom choose a slate grey dress that looks wonderful on her. She was worried about meshing well in pictures... It really didnt matter to me either way. My dad will probably end up wearing a navy or grey suit bc its a casual wedding and these a less formal than black... So potentially my parents could be flip flopped colors of the wedding party. FMIL is looking almost exclusively at navy dresses... Is it a little weird that every single person in pictures will be in some form of navy or grey? Maybe. Probably. But who cares?

msuprincess04

Your dress is white, her dress isn't. She won't be able to outshine you.

Also, if you need another way to look at it, a lot of really comfy dresses are in chiffon. Esepcially for a summer wedding. I'm sure that's partly why you asked your BMs to wear it. So, it's pretty possible that she'd find one she liked in the same material. Just let it go. You'll be fine.

AddieCake

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_attire-accessories_mil-dress?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:15Discussion:d6279669-542a-4cc2-81f1-2aa0b9763784Post:98428813-9e52-4145-b029-bb9420e725f5">Re: MIL dress</a>:
[QUOTE]Addie, ugh, I bet she looked silly. 
Posted by Liatris2010[/QUOTE]

<div>I found out about it about 3 weeks before the wedding and didn't know how to tell her no b/c she was excited and my dad seemed to think it was a good idea as well. If I hadn't been so shocked when he told me, I would have told him then that it wasn't really appropriate, but the moment passed and then every day that I dallied in bringing it up was another day lost for her to find something to wear, so I just let it go. </div>

mcda04

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_attire-accessories_mil-dress?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:15Discussion:d6279669-542a-4cc2-81f1-2aa0b9763784Post:634cb3bc-a72f-40af-a354-adb1eecb8528">MIL dress</a>:
[QUOTE]My wedding dress is all lace with a little chiffon on the bust. My wedding colors are yellow and gray. My issue here is my FMIL is choosing a tight cocktail length lace dress in yellow to wear to the wedding. My mother is wearing a satin 3/4 length dress in beige. Yellow is my accent color and at this time I feel that it is inappropriate for my FMIL to wear my accent color in the same fabric as my wedding dress. She seems to think that she needs to match my bridal party. I don't. I feel as if she is trying to outshine me on my wedding day. <strong>Am I being ridiculous about this</strong>! Any advice would help!!
Posted by lovies21[/QUOTE]

Absolutely. Ridiculous and Bridezilla-ish.

leahkate

Lord I hope my sons don't end up with a gal like you. Chill.

FaithCaitlin

How is she outshining you? 

I say to just take a few deep breaths and try to determine if this is REALLY worth the fight. 

gmcr78

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_attire-accessories_mil-dress?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:15Discussion:d6279669-542a-4cc2-81f1-2aa0b9763784Post:e28a2a13-56fc-45f9-b667-1c6b76cdbb54">Re: MIL dress</a>:
[QUOTE]My stepmother wore a long, ivory, sparkly dress to my wedding. It was the dress she wore to marry my father in several months before. I didn't like it, but I didn't say a word. 
Posted by AddieL73[/QUOTE]

That's horrible.  You're a better person than I am.
On what planet would she ever have thought that was appropriate.