Don't think I can ever make FMIL happy...

Hjmarie

Some day's my FMIL is really nice and helpful others she's a huge wench.
Today is a wench day ... We did our seating chart Sunday and I thought everything was all all set. We'll today my FSIL tell me that FMIL is mad because her family has to sit on the "bad" side of the reception hall.  UMMM... the tables are split down the middle and the grooms family sits on the side the groom is sitting on!!!  I don't get one bit how this is the bad side?  We have all of our families sitting up as close as we can to the head table, and our friends in the back 40 of the hall (also closest to the bar).  Where does she want them to sit with my family?? 

Yesterday was FMIL birthday, and her and FFIL went out to dinner, w/out their kids.  We both called to say happy birthday, and asked if we could stop by the house to give her a card after dinner.  We'll on their way home from dinner they stopped at my parents to get some stuff from them and we were there getting our marriage license (long story), so we just talked to them then - in the car because she refused to get out of the car to talk to us.  Now she's mad because we were at my parents instead of celebrating her birthday with her.

I think it's a lost cause to make her happy before the wedding...

AllAboutTheBenjamin

Some people just aren't ever pleased with anything... and those people aren't worth your time or energy.

KatyRoseM

Is one side of the hall closer to the dance floor?  the bar?  Anything like that?  If so there may be a better side.  That doesn't mean she was right, just something to consider. 

How is your Fi when dealing with her?  Is he helpful?  Can you have him talk to her about these things? 

goheels05

She's probably uptight that you got condoms with vibrating cockrings and you aren't sharing them with her. 

MarriedInAFever

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[QUOTE]She's probably uptight that you got condoms with vibrating cockrings and you aren't sharing them with her. 
Posted by goheels05[/QUOTE]

I KNEW OP HAD SAID SOMETHING CRAZY RECENTLY!

BecW2be

DED Heels!

OP, it sounds like she just needs a big, icy glass full of ignore. Don't entertain her.

RachNRich

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[QUOTE]She's probably uptight that you got condoms with vibrating cockrings and you aren't sharing them with her. 
Posted by goheels05[/QUOTE]
<div>You make me so happy, Heels. </div>

JennaV26

Unless you want to rework your entire seating chart (I wouldn't) then just ignore her if you genuinely think she's just being a brat. Ditto with the birthday situation.
 
A lot of times if my MIL is angry I'll just ignore her because when I disagree with her, she always gets offended; i.e. she didn't think it was necessary that we register for china, I disagreed, so she got all huffy and said "Well I'm getting a little uncomfortable with this discussion," so I said "Fine, we won't have it then!" Easy breezy.

goheels05

I aim to please.

arv266

AS a rule, I try to ignore any information I've heard from a second hand source.  When you FSIL starts to tell you about what ELSE FMIL is upset about, change the suject.  If I have not heard it from the horse's mouth, then the info does not exist.  You are not going to make her happy, use your energy on something more productive.

vegasgroom

People that can't be happy no matter what the issue is aren't worth the effort trying to please.

DodgersBride

I personally wouldn't engage her and just leave the seating chart as is. Me and FMIL don't get along so I wouldn't bother, but if you are going to try to work something out with her I would have FI talk to her.

Lisa8888

You haven't actually said if she is right or wrong that there is a bad side. It is possible to have a bad side. Why don't you switch sides?

kpwedkk

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[QUOTE]Some day's my FMIL is really nice and helpful others she's a huge wench. Today is a wench day ... We did our seating chart Sunday and I thought everything was all all set. We'll today my FSIL tell me that FMIL is mad because her family has to sit on the "bad" side of the reception hall.  UMMM... the tables are split down the middle and the grooms family sits on the side the groom is sitting on!!!  I don't get one bit how this is the bad side?  We have all of our families sitting up as close as we can to the head table, and our friends in the back 40 of the hall (also closest to the bar).  Where does she want them to sit with my family??  Yesterday was FMIL birthday, and her and FFIL went out to dinner, w/out their kids.  We both called to say happy birthday, and asked if we could stop by the house to give her a card after dinner.  We'll on their way home from dinner they stopped at my parents to get some stuff from them and we were there getting our marriage license (long story), so we just talked to them then - in the car because she refused to get out of the car to talk to us.  Now she's mad because we were at my parents instead of celebrating her birthday with her. I think it's a lost cause to make her happy before the wedding...
Posted by Hjmarie[/QUOTE]

Just going by the title - Don't think I can ever make FMIL happy....

<strong>Then don't. She's not worth your energy or time.</strong>  If she says something rude,does some misinterpretation of what really happened on her birthday or doesn't approve of you, then ignore, like water off a duck's back.

betrothed123

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[QUOTE]She's probably uptight that you got condoms with vibrating cockrings and you aren't sharing them with her. 
Posted by goheels05[/QUOTE]

Yup, I'd be pissed too.