I'm going to vent here before I SNAP!!!!!

MISSCOURTNEY20

As everyone knows, my FH and I are paying for our wedding ourselves. My mom retired last year, and really doesn't have the income to help us out. No big deal. I actually feel better about this cause I feel so accomplished.
My sister got married 2 years ago, and my mom was able to help out a bunch and would have done a lot more, but my sister wound up having a very small ceremony and then we just went out to dinner, which my mom paid for. (There were about 20 people.)

Here is what is PISSNG ME OFF!!!

My sister and I have not exchanged birthday gifts in about 20 years. (She got mad at me on my bday and took my gift back. Yeah it was childish but she was a brain dead teanager so go figure.) For some reason this year, she asks for a gift. She wated some Can can by Paris Hilton.WHAT??? I told her "Uh we are paying for a wedding. Sorry that ain't gonna happen, but hold off, and I thought that maybe I could make it one of her BM gifts. Well she bought it herself and then sent me an email that said "I'm wearing my Can Can". I replied "Great now you smell like me" and moved on.    

Today I get an email "from" my 18 month old nephew askng if I would buy his halloween costume. WTF!!!!???? I was on the phone with her when I read it and told her AGAIN that we were still paying for the wedding that I had told her about. (Bunches of sarcasm) Shyt! She then says that she thought that we had most of the money. I told her that we did but that was for the venue and there are a ton of other people we have to pay. I guess I should not have told her that we were looking pretty good financially huh? Dangit, I am so pissed!! I am so tempted to call her and ask her what the hell is up....

Okay that is all. I gotta go eat some soup cause I need to drop about 7 pounds so I don't feel like I am going to bust outta my dress. Lata and thanks for listening/reading.

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She actually called you and asked for a birthday gift? And sent an email from her baby asking for a costume? Wow. that's just pathetic.  Sounds like someone is looking for handouts.

Manwaithiel

Your sister sounds like a brat. Don't share your financial situation with her. Problem solved.

kpwedkk

Set a good example for your nephew... Don't feel obligated to help his mom out with handouts as others have said...  and yeah, don't share your financial details with anyone except your Future DH

katiewhompus

Eh, I think the problem is that when people (in general, not you) say "I can't afford to buy you a $20 gift because I'm throwing a wedding" it's not going to go over well. It's like someone complaining that they can't afford to go out to dinner with you because they are planning a huge trip to Vegas or something. The one with the less money goes "Oh, so you can afford thousands on this thing but not $20 for family?"

But yeah, she does sound like quite a brat. Just don't share financial info and you'll be fine.

LessThanZero

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_snarky-brides_im-going-vent-here-before-snap?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:17Discussion:467f7129-5b5f-4403-a232-c7f95fb73e93Post:5e42cd32-eae3-44e3-bdbb-6b3333f537ec">Re: I'm going to vent here before I SNAP!!!!!</a>:
[QUOTE]Eh, I think the problem is that when people (in general, not you) say "I can't afford to buy you a $20 gift because I'm throwing a wedding" it's not going to go over well. It's like someone complaining that they can't afford to go out to dinner with you because they are planning a huge trip to Vegas or something. The one with the less money goes "Oh, so you can afford thousands on this thing but not $20 for family?" But yeah, she does sound like quite a brat. Just don't share financial info and you'll be fine.
Posted by katiewhompus[/QUOTE]


Yes, this. Based solely upon the details you've shared, I agree with this statement completely. If sharing financial details leads to guilt trips and weird emails from babies, I'd just keep it to yourself.

MISSCOURTNEY20

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_snarky-brides_im-going-vent-here-before-snap?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:17Discussion:467f7129-5b5f-4403-a232-c7f95fb73e93Post:f0d44672-d9c0-43d7-9c1d-7651240de882">Re: I'm going to vent here before I SNAP!!!!!</a>:
[QUOTE]If my niece <strong>needed</strong> a halloween costume I would buy it for her. Perfume for a selfish sister?  Not so much.
Posted by Blueyed228[/QUOTE]

Magic word! She doesn't need me to buy it. Believe me, she can afford it.