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He's not going to ask again.
I've told a few of you about DH's family members constantly and rudely asking us when we are going to have children and how much it bothers me and how next time I might lose it on someone.
Smug SIL had her babies on Thursday night (they are so cute, btw, and she's doing really well and I'm actually pretty impressed with how she's handling motherhood), so of course we're getting asked.
About 10 of us were standing around in the recovery room when DH's uncle said "you guys are next, so when's it going to be?" He's a real shitstirrer as it is and loves getting under anyone's skin.
I replied, "Actually, I think we're going to wait a few years and let you become a grandpa first."
His daughter's 7. He didn't like that answer.
Smug SIL had her babies on Thursday night (they are so cute, btw, and she's doing really well and I'm actually pretty impressed with how she's handling motherhood), so of course we're getting asked.
About 10 of us were standing around in the recovery room when DH's uncle said "you guys are next, so when's it going to be?" He's a real shitstirrer as it is and loves getting under anyone's skin.
I replied, "Actually, I think we're going to wait a few years and let you become a grandpa first."
His daughter's 7. He didn't like that answer.
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Re: He's not going to ask again.
So glad the twins and mom are doing well
RAWR!
House / Baby blog
So I just inform them that we would if the tubal didnt take. They usually shut up. And why is it that it's assumed because people get married they re going to procreate ASAP, or at all. This is a very personal thing for most couples.
Do not mess in the affairs of dinosaurs because you are crunchy and taste good with ketchup.
I love you Missy. Even though you are not smart enough to take online quizzes to find out really important information. ~cew
She loved it. Both FI and I are adopted, so both our mothers went through the very difficult process of privately not being able to conceive to term, and publicly being asked over and over when they'd have kids. So, no pressure, really from them. Although both my parents, fi's parents and my late husband's parents have all said they'd quite like being grandparents (by us) on at least one occasion.
House / Baby blog
Just call me "Brothel"
And betrothed, I'm disgusted with most of the comments that you have posted. I don't think I've ever read such judgmental comments in my life. I'm so lucky that the girls I speak to on theknot are nothing like you...I would've never come on here for ADVICE if I would've encountered a big a bitch as you. I genuinely feel awful for your children or your future children, and I think it would be irresponsible of YOU not to invest in their future therapy sessions starting now. Because trust me when I tell you honey, they're gonna need it. ~jcaruncho2010
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The really annoying one is every one at work bugs me constantly, including my boss which is really inappropriate. I need a really good answer for them that is still sfw.
RAWR!
[QUOTE]The really annoying one is every one at work bugs me constantly, including my boss which is really inappropriate. I need a really good answer for them that is still sfw.
Posted by MeaghanandMichael[/QUOTE]
Maybe it's just my company's laid back atmosphere, but I definitely use that line on my coworkers as well.
Just call me "Brothel"
And betrothed, I'm disgusted with most of the comments that you have posted. I don't think I've ever read such judgmental comments in my life. I'm so lucky that the girls I speak to on theknot are nothing like you...I would've never come on here for ADVICE if I would've encountered a big a bitch as you. I genuinely feel awful for your children or your future children, and I think it would be irresponsible of YOU not to invest in their future therapy sessions starting now. Because trust me when I tell you honey, they're gonna need it. ~jcaruncho2010
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Knitti, that's cute. My parents refer to my dogs as their grandpups.
When my dad asks when he's going to have (human) grandchildren, I remind him that I put myself through college and I'm still paying for it, and if he had helped in any way shape or form we'd already be financially ready to have kids. He's so dense, though, that he just keeps pushing.
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: He's not going to ask again. : Maybe it's just my company's laid back atmosphere, but I definitely use that line on my coworkers as well.
Posted by betrothed123[/QUOTE]
I probably should. This is weird, but my co-workers (all male, on my level anyway) almost like to see me as some one open to motherhood. It is such a weird good old boys dynamic so I like to fly low under the radar with this stuff. It is not cool, but it is what it is.
RAWR!
Just call me "Brothel"
And betrothed, I'm disgusted with most of the comments that you have posted. I don't think I've ever read such judgmental comments in my life. I'm so lucky that the girls I speak to on theknot are nothing like you...I would've never come on here for ADVICE if I would've encountered a big a bitch as you. I genuinely feel awful for your children or your future children, and I think it would be irresponsible of YOU not to invest in their future therapy sessions starting now. Because trust me when I tell you honey, they're gonna need it. ~jcaruncho2010
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[QUOTE]Ah see, there's a big difference between our work environments. All my coworkers (also male) like to think of me as one of the guys so when they get to ball-busting I throw it right back.
Posted by betrothed123[/QUOTE]
Only when we're boozing ;)
RAWR!
KD-love the new sig. You do not look 44!
Amy-great shirt(even though I am not a red sox fan)
M&M, I love your sig! I'm stealing it. Sorry. Imitation is the sincerest form of flattery you know.
However, since switching to "Every time someone asks when we're going to have a kids, I add a year," BIL's girlfriend has gotten the tally up to 8 years and counting before I have children.
Planning/Married Biology
[QUOTE]I love it! M&M, I love your sig! I'm stealing it. Sorry. Imitation is the sincerest form of flattery you know.
Posted by MarriedInAFever[/QUOTE]
haha no worries! I think we should all do it personally :) Then, maybe KA will change the description of this board to include something about MadMen. We would be such ultimate fans.
RAWR!
then she has the audasity to tell me i have to get pregnant now because i'll be the only one from highschool without a kid. to which my reply was "yeah, but i'm also the only one from highschool with a college degree, to own my own home, to have a well-paying job and the ability to travel, so i'm used to being the 'only one' for a lot of things compared to people at our highschool."
[QUOTE]i get the same thing, mostly from people i went to high school with. i'm only 23 and am pretty much the only one that does not have a kid (or two or three)yet. the most recent was my (former) best friend in high school who less than 2 months ago had her 3rd abortion. she found out last week that she was preggo again (for the second time with a guy she's only been dating since april) and decided it was time to actually keep one of them (classy, right?) she then proceeded to have her "last hurrah" as she called it, where she got plastered drunk and smoked 2 packs of cigarettes because..."well...what if i didn't find out till tomorrow, i still would've gotten wasted tonight anyways". then she has the audasity to tell me i have to get pregnant now because i'll be the only one from highschool without a kid. to which my reply was "yeah, but i'm also the only one from highschool with a college degree, to own my own home, to have a well-paying job and the ability to travel, so i'm used to being the 'only one' for a lot of things compared to people at our highschool."
Posted by jemmini6[/QUOTE]
This whole post gives me the sads :(
RAWR!
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: He's not going to ask again. : haha no worries! I think we should all do it personally :) Then, maybe KA will change the description of this board to include something about MadMen. We would be such ultimate fans.
Posted by MeaghanandMichael[/QUOTE]
Brilliant!
[QUOTE]These answers are great, I'm going to add those to my list. His other uncle hasn't seen us lately and he's an obnoxious shitstirrer too. Knitti, that's cute. My parents refer to my dogs as their grandpups. <strong>When my dad asks when he's going to have (human) grandchildren, I remind him that I put myself through college and I'm still paying for it, and if he had helped in any way shape or form we'd already be financially ready to have kids.</strong> He's so dense, though, that he just keeps pushing.
Posted by goheels05[/QUOTE]
I hope I have the balls to use this on my parents one day.
This came up on my horse forum and someone that wasn't planning on having kids at all finally burst into tears in a group setting with her husband's family after being asked for the 30th time and ran off. Her husband politely explained that the question really upset her "... with her condition" and then he also ran off to comfort her. They never bothered explaining it wasn't that she was infertile; she was just sick to death of the question. Never got asked again. She highly recommends it!
Some pressure has come off since his 17 year old sis just ended up having a kid but I just know they're still going to save all the baby stuff for us. Lots of people still asking. Ugh, just leave us ALONE! We're 23 and 24, we're not exactly running out of time!
June siggy challenge!
FI mentioned to FMIL that today I was feeling queasy. She immediately jumped on her other son's facebook account to ask if I was preggers. No I'm not and I deleted that crap off my wall!
dad: give me some grandbabies
me: pay my student loans
::silence::