R&R Monday

Dreamaaa

(Rant and Rave)

Rant: (kinda) A year and a half ago it seemed like May 2011 would never get here and now I'm wishing time would slow down! Its right around the corner.

Rave: Went this weekend and got the BM dresses chosen. We will have to order them next month!

jen12_23

Oh, thank you sooo much for this post, I need it!

Rant: The FMIL thinks that I don't want to have anything to do with her because I am not including her on anything (her words) because me and my mother went to a bridal show last weekend and didn't invite her and that it was FH idea to invite her to the tasting this past weekend.  Let me let everyone know, the FMIL was there when we went dress shopping and she came to a different bridal show that me and my mom went to.  Things that we have put payments down for, she has made comments about them being too expensive.  Her and FFIL were supposed to give me a number for a cake, they never came through.  We already had DJ, so the only thing left is flowers?   What else more would she like to be involved in?  Now when she made this big deal last weekend about the bridal show, FH basically said that he was tired of the drama and didn't give a f*** is I asked her to do anything else pertaining to the wedding.  Fast forward to this past weekend, I told FH that we should invite our mothers to the tasting (especially mine because my parents are paying for it), but that it was up to him if he wanted his to go, since the last comment from him was that he didn't care (to be nice).  He asked me if I wanted her to go, and I said, "If you want her to go".  So when she met us at our house to go to our sons bball game and then the tasting, for some reason she asked FH who wanted her to come, and he said he did.  That's when the sobbing started and she walked out of the house saying that I didn't want to have anything to do with her and that she was going home.

Rave: Everything else is going absolutely lovely!  The tasting at the venue was delicious.  North Carolina pulled pork bbq, grilled chicken with a bbq sauce side, blackened tuna with a mango sauce side, oven roasted brisset potatoes, greek pasta salad, cole slaw, and steamed vegetables.  I cannot wait!

Again, thank you ladies, I feel alot better!

Dreamaaa

I guess I kind of have mixed emotions. I'm not sure how FH and FMILs relationship is or was before the wedding. Though just try and remember that she will be family and someone you will be around for the rest of your life. It seems like she is a bit of a drama queen. Though I feel like FH should have said that you both wanted her to go.

If your worried about her feeling then call her up and personally ask her to go.

Hope this helps!
-Dreama

mkarns

Woaoooaaahhhh! That is rough Jen. I feel like I went through a very very small version of that, but thats because FH's Mom is in PA- so fortunately she understands. If I could make a suggestion that worked for me....

Give her a task that is seemingly important to your wedding day. I.E.- My FMIL wants to do a cookie's and milk table. Did I want one? No. But she is coming down days early to make cookies and she feels that it's pretty important. So...Whatever! I like cookies. LOL

Another thing that seemed important was my approval of her dress. I asked if she wanted to go shopping together. That made her feel special.

So anyway what i'm saying is you dont have to actually involve her in everything to make her feel like she's important to you guys and your wedding. One thing to call her own would probably suffice. Let her know its nothing personal.

Good Luck and GOOD rant!

I'm glad both of your wedding plans are coming along!! Woooo!

jen12_23

She is a drama queen!  Thank you so much for the suggestions ladies.  I am getting ready to ask her to go to a bridal show next weekend, so we will see how that goes.

dandan83

I just wanted to say that your food sounds amazing, Jen!

jen12_23

Thank you very much!  Kudos to the Kiln Creek Country Club!