Registry questions (there's a couple)

sdavi084

I'll be doing a save the date event on Facebook since most of the guests are in college and the internet is their preferred way of contact. Would it be considered rude to list somewhere on there links to our registry?

Also, we have two so guests have options, is it a good or bad idea to double up some items (ie a waffle maker on each). The idea was to keep an idea on the registry to see if something gets bought and if so, remove the item from the other. 

Sorry, I'm kind of clueless with this part of the planning. 

GeauxTigers17

1. No, do not put your registry information on any kind of invitation. I don't even like it on wedding websites, but that's considered ok, generally. If someone wants to know where you're registered, they will ask. 2. There are mixed schools of thought on this. I wouldn't do it with something like a waffle maker, but I don't have a problem seeing sets on different registries (dishes, china, glassware, etc.). I don't think it's really an etiquette issue so much as a practical one, though. Plenty of people end up with duplicates even when hey don't double up registries, and returns can be a pain from what I understand.

kellya01

As far as doubling up on items on multiple registries, here is my thought:
If it's an item you ONLY want ONE of, I wouldn't put it on both registries.  Returns aren't always easy, and Aunt Bethune may want to see you open that kitchen Aid mixer with happiness but not realize that Aunt Becky already bought you a kitchen Aid mixer at the other store. 

If it's an item you want multiple of, like glasses, flatware, dinnerware, etc, I would think duplicating it on 2 registries would be okay.  If you get more than one of it, you'll be able to use it anyway, right? :-)

It can be a hassle to have to moniter your registries when you have duplicated items, especially as you get closer to the wedding.  You may want to avoid the hassle altogether, but that is a call you will decide for sure!! :-)

I personally wouldn't list registry info on FB, even on the "event" things for an online STD.  You're technically inviting them to the wedding, which is NOT the "gift giving" event that a bridal shower is.  If it was an event invite for your bridal shower (by someone other than the bride, of course), I could understand listing registry info on the event page.  I'm beginning to think that FB etiquette needs its own book! 

DanielleM01

If I were going to do an online Save the Date, I would probably do it via e-mail instead of on facebook. Try one of those websites with online cards....sometimes you can find ones that are free.  I don't know, it just seems a little nicer to me than creating an event on facebook.  Just my opinion, though!  Also, I probably wouldn't include registry info on that.  You can put it on your wedding website if you have one, but the only invitation that should have any registry info on it is possibly the shower invite.

As for duplicating items, I probably wouldn't do it in most cases.  Some people put their china on both registries.  When one of my friends got married, she was originally just going to put her china on the BBB registry but then found out that it's actually not sold in the stores in some regions, so she also put some of it on a Macy's registry.  Otherwise, I don't really see the point in doubling up, it seems like more trouble than it's worth.

cookiesandwine

Unless you're inviting every single person that you're 'friends' with on facebook, DO NOT post it there.  It could and most likely will create huge drama and pain in the @$$. Just be careful.

I also like the e-vite idea.

Milsey32

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_registering-gifts_registry-questions-theres-couple?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:34Discussion:095dbdc0-f744-4f70-8700-6b81b14dccf0Post:707f7275-d473-44c3-b2b1-69b4784dab34">Re: Registry questions (there's a couple)</a>:
[QUOTE]As far as doubling up on items on multiple registries, here is my thought: If it's an item you ONLY want ONE of, I wouldn't put it on both registries.  Returns aren't always easy, and <strong>Aunt Bethune</strong> may want to see you open that kitchen Aid mixer with happiness but not realize that Aunt Becky already bought you a kitchen Aid mixer at the other store.  If it's an item you want multiple of, like glasses, flatware, dinnerware, etc, I would think duplicating it on 2 registries would be okay.  If you get more than one of it, you'll be able to use it anyway, right? :-) It can be a hassle to have to moniter your registries when you have duplicated items, especially as you get closer to the wedding.  You may want to avoid the hassle altogether, but that is a call you will decide for sure!! :-) I personally wouldn't list registry info on FB, even on the "event" things for an online STD.  You're technically inviting them to the wedding, which is NOT the "gift giving" event that a bridal shower is.  If it was an event invite for your bridal shower (by someone other than the bride, of course), I could understand listing registry info on the event page.  I'm beginning to think that FB etiquette needs its own book! 
Posted by kellya01[/QUOTE]

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</div><div>who has an aunt bethune? </div>

kellya01

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_registering-gifts_registry-questions-theres-couple?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:34Discussion:095dbdc0-f744-4f70-8700-6b81b14dccf0Post:6c354701-31e8-44d9-8187-b6fe76d7aa0c">Re: Registry questions (there's a couple)</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Registry questions (there's a couple) : who has an aunt bethune? 
Posted by Milsey32[/QUOTE]

Lol, sorry, I was typing hypothetically... pulled an unusual name out of thin air.  :-)

SirJuliusVonHaast

I agree that it isn't a great idea to do this on facebook. Why not send out an e-mail STD? 

If you have a wedding website, you can include the web address in your STD. You can put your registry information on the website.

sdavi084

I was going to do a private FB event. Honestly, I'm not even sure if a STD is necessarry. An email one might be better though, you guys are right.

Thanks so much for the help

JCM10

Definitely a fan of the email idea. That being said, I'm in college (well, grad school) and LOVE getting mail. The real kind. If it's saving you money, that's one thing, but I know a ton of people who would more appreciate the 'real thing.' Plus, I know I've ignored more than one email (on accident) because it just got lost in the shuffle. That would never happen with a paper invite...it'd go right on my bulletin board!

Milsey32

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_registering-gifts_registry-questions-theres-couple?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:34Discussion:095dbdc0-f744-4f70-8700-6b81b14dccf0Post:ed026c67-f91b-437f-a8d9-569f4bc693e2">Re: Registry questions (there's a couple)</a>:
[QUOTE]Definitely a fan of the email idea. That being said, I'm in college (well, grad school) and<strong> LOVE getting mail</strong>. The real kind. If it's saving you money, that's one thing, but I know a ton of people who would more appreciate the 'real thing.' Plus, I know<strong> I've ignored more than one email (on accident) because it just got lost in the shuffle. </strong>That would never happen with a paper invite...it'd go right on my bulletin board!
Posted by JCM10[/QUOTE]

<div>Same here... I like snail mail vs e-mail. I like to physically hold it and keep it by my calendar or whatever</div><div>
</div><div>@Kelly -- It's okay, I just thought it was a funny name. [: </div>

james110

Personally I think Save the Dates are always appreciated and should be sent out about 6 months in advance if possible. If you have any important guests that you want to be there and need to travel to the wedding it can be considered rude to not give enough warning.  You can get really affordable and cute Save the Dates on Etsy or Vista Print http://www.vistaprint.com/event/wedding.aspx?&GP=4%2f14%2f2011+7%3a55%3a30+PM&GPS=1523811122&GNF=1&GPLSID=

It was definitely not my intention but sending a save the date also prompted some early wedding gifts.  I would not put the registry info anywhere except your website though.  People are more resourceful than you think and will want to buy you gifts/ go out of the way to find where you are registered :-)

altairarcturus

We did something very similar.  We sent out save the date postcards followed by invitations to the event, but we also set up a Private Facebook event (those invited on Facebook also got a physical Save-the-date & invite).  It has worked out very well and has let us get an idea of numbers very quickly and easily...it's also a great way to disseminate information about hotels, etc...  We told people where we were registered by responding to an individual who inquired by posting a response on the Facebook event page and tagged that individual.  For example, we would post on our event wall something like, "To John Doe and others who have asked, we are registered at Macy's".  It's probably a bit tacky, but no one seems to have been offended.

We also thought about the duplicate gifts at multiple stores and decided to go ahead with it...It's my job to be a registry stalker and remove duplicates if the item is purchased at the other store.  We haven't had any problems so far, but I guess it's a trade off...do you want to be suprised by what you receive?