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Wording where We're registered on the Invitation

Where do I inform my guests where we are registered?I assumed on the bottom of my invitations.  Also how do I word it?

Re: Wording where We're registered on the Invitation

  • You don't.  Nothing about registries goes on wedding invitations, ever.
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  • Yeah, no registry info on the invitation.

    If you have a wedding website with that info you can include the url for your site (NOT ON THE INVITATION, put it on the hotel insert or something) and people will see it, or they'll ask someone, or they'll figure it out on their own.
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  • You can have your bridal party put them on your shower invitations (assuming that you are having on), you can put it on the website (if you have one) or my word of mouth (only if people ask). 

    You don't put them on wedding invitations
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    [QUOTE]Where do I inform my guests where we are registered?I assumed on the bottom of my invitations.  Also how do I word it?
    Posted by torilynn85[/QUOTE]

    <div>You do exactly what Galaxy said.  It never goes on an invitation.  The invitation is for the wedding location and time information only not for presents.</div>
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  • You inform them by tellng them when they ask.  Or you can list it on your website.  Registry information should never be listed on an invitation.
  • You never, ever mention anything about a registry unless you are asked.  Putting it in the invitation is horribly rude.  

    If people want to know, they will ask.  
  • I 100% agree never directly on your invitations do you mention the registry, however I may be somewhat against the grain here, but I have the send and fold type of invitations.  There are no inserts, so I had something along the lines of: For additional information please check out our wedding website at: [email protected].  The website contained the directions to the church/hall information about hotels etc.  (More than 1/2 the guest list is from out of town)  It also does have a page about registry stuff.  Point being that if someone wants to give you a gift they will ask, or ask one of your family members.  Even though you never add it to an invitation, I see no harm in the mention of a wedding website if it contains important wedding related information such as directions to the church.
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    [QUOTE]I 100% agree never directly on your invitations do you mention the registry, however I may be somewhat against the grain here, but I have the send and fold type of invitations.  There are no inserts, so I had something along the lines of: For additional information please check out our wedding website at: [email protected].  The website contained the directions to the church/hall information about hotels etc.  (More than 1/2 the guest list is from out of town)  It also does have a page about registry stuff.  Point being that if someone wants to give you a gift they will ask, or ask one of your family members.  Even though you never add it to an invitation, I see no harm in the mention of a wedding website if it contains important wedding related information such as directions to the church.
    Posted by cindylynn25[/QUOTE]<div>
    </div><div>I think most people are in agreement that putting registry info on your wedding website is fine.  I mean, I wouldn't have it on there in an "in your face" kind of way, like it shouldn't be the first thing that comes up.  But having a page labeled "registry info" is fine.  The difference is that putting it in the invitation, it comes off as you're expecting gifts.  Which is not ok.  But on a website, guests voluntarily seek out that information.  So it's totally different.  </div>
  • I too thought that you shouldn't put registry information on you invitations because it was rude based off what people on the knot said.  However, a lot of people did not read my website (in spite of it being on the invite) and so they never knew.  It was truly hit and miss concerning the website; alot of people read it and a lot of people didn't.  I got a lot of gifts that were not on my registry that I had to return b/c I had no need for it or because I already received a similar gift.  Also, some people actually wished I'd included registry info in the invite.  What I've seen some people do is put inserts in the invitation concerning their registries.  We even had a relative ask why we didn't do that.
  • We actually had little business cards made up with the registry information to put in with the invitiations.  I have people asking constantly where we were registered.  We aren't registering with a store so we just made up little business cards saying no gift is expected, just their presence is enough but if they would like to contribute to our honeymoon they can do so at www.______.com. I ran it by several people and all said it was very tasteful and great!  I don't think it's the total norm anymore to NOT say somewhere in the invitiation, just not on it, where you are registered.
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    [QUOTE]We actually had little business cards made up with the registry information to put in with the invitiations.  I have people asking constantly where we were registered.  We aren't registering with a store so we just made up little business cards saying no gift is expected, just their presence is enough but if they would like to contribute to our honeymoon they can do so at <a href="http://www.______.com" rel="nofollow">www.______.com</a>. I ran it by several people and all said it was very tasteful and great!  I don't think it's the total norm anymore to NOT say somewhere in the invitiation, just not on it, where you are registered.
    Posted by BenitaKP[/QUOTE]

    Everything about this is awful. The people who thought it was tasteful were wrong.

    People either are not idiots and can find your registry (look on your website, look up your last name at common stores, ask you/your parents/your WP) or they are the type to go off registry anyway.
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    [QUOTE]We actually had little business cards made up with the registry information to put in with the invitiations.  I have people asking constantly where we were registered.  We aren't registering with a store so we just made up little business cards saying no gift is expected, just their presence is enough but if they would like to contribute to our honeymoon they can do so at <a href="http://www.______.com" rel="nofollow">www.______.com</a>. I ran it by several people and all said it was very tasteful and great!  I don't think it's the total norm anymore to NOT say somewhere in the invitiation, just not on it, where you are registered.
    Posted by BenitaKP[/QUOTE]


    Yeah, what you did was DIStasteful.  It may have worked for you but it was still very rude.
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    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: Wording where We're registered on the Invitation : Yeah, what you did was DIStasteful.  It may have worked for you but it was still very rude.
    Posted by banana468[/QUOTE]

    Well banana468, you have your opinion of how your wedding should go and I have mine.  That's what makes the world go around.  As I said, I asked people before I did it and EVERYBODY said it was tasteful and fine to put in the invitations...and YES, I did ask people - sisters - who would be TOTALLY honest with me.  But thanks for your response.

    And emilyinchile, no, I didn't say people are idiots.  As I said above, we all have our way of doing our weddings...you think it's ok to ask for gifts?  I don't think it's ok to ask for gifts if I don't need anything.  Perhaps if you saw the card you wouldn't think it was rude or distasteful.  The wording was done in a way that people had the choice to do it or not...but it stated on there  "A gift is not necessary as we have already been blessed with the basic needs of a home.  Your presence alone will make our wedding a joyous and memorable day...."  We AREN'T ASKING for a gift as it states in the VERY FIRST sentence.  And I know my guests well enough to know they won't be offended or think it's rude.  But, to each their own!  Thanks for your response as well.  I don't have a wedding site for people to go on and view (who has the time to keep up with that and working full time, taking care of a home, and planning a wedding?!).  And even if I did, not everybody has access to a computer, this I know for a fact.

    Oh, and my parents are deceased and his live out of town and we aren't registering at any stores.   I think all of us have our own opinions of what is proper and what is not, I don't think it's right to be so harsh or judgmental and rude to somebody else on here for something they decided to do for THEIR day.  If you disagree with it, just say you disagree instead of saying how DIStasteful or rude you feel it is.

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  • [QUOTE] "A gift is not necessary as we have already been blessed with the basic needs of a home.  Your presence alone will make our wedding a joyous and memorable day...."  We AREN'T ASKING for a gift as it states in the VERY FIRST sentence.  And I know my guests well enough to know they won't be offended or think it's rude.  But, to each their own! [/QUOTE]

    So you didn't register???   Does that mean that you asked for cash?  Either way, ANY statement about gifts has no business in your wedding invitation.  PERIOD.

    [QUOTE]I don't have a wedding site for people to go on and view (who has the time to keep up with that and working full time, taking care of a home, and planning a wedding?!).  And even if I did, not everybody has access to a computer, this I know for a fact.[/QUOTE]

    Do they have access to phones?  My 93 yo grandmother purchased us gifts off our registry.  Somehow she made contact with people to figure it out.  Long before the days of the internet, it was just as rude to put registry information in the invitation.  Now that people have this access at their fingertips, it's even more gauche.

    [QUOTE]I think all of us have our own opinions of what is proper and what is not, I don't think it's right to be so harsh or judgmental and rude to somebody else on here for something they decided to do for THEIR day.  If you disagree with it, just say you disagree instead of saying how DIStasteful or rude you feel it is.[/QUOTE]

    For starters, if you're inviting others, stop calling it YOUR day.  It's not.  It stops being your day when you decide to invite others to it.

    Beyond that, this isn't a matter of opinion.  It's a matter of appropriateness and following correct etiquette.   What you did was inappropriate and distasteful as it goes against what is considered proper.   That's not a matter of opinion.
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    [QUOTE]So you didn't register???   Does that mean that you asked for cash?  Either way, ANY statement about gifts has no business in your wedding invitation.  PERIOD. Do they have access to phones?  My 93 yo grandmother purchased us gifts off our registry.  Somehow she made contact with people to figure it out.  Long before the days of the internet, it was just as rude to put registry information in the invitation.  Now that people have this access at their fingertips, it's even more gauche. For starters, if you're inviting others, stop calling it YOUR day.  It's not.  It stops being your day when you decide to invite others to it. Beyond that, this isn't a matter of opinion.  It's a matter of appropriateness and following correct etiquette.   What you did was inappropriate and distasteful as it goes against what is considered proper.   That's not a matter of opinion.
    Posted by banana468[/QUOTE]

    NO, WE DIDN"T REGISTER....why would we when we don't need anything?  We aren't a young couple just moving out and expecting people to furnish our home!  NO, we DID NOT ask for cash.  I can and will continue to call it MY day because it is.  We are inviting people to share in OUR day.  It is not their day by any means.  They were invited as our guests to share in OUR day.  And asking for gifts is ok?  Wow...amazing how there is a double standard.  So if people have the "money" dance at their wedding, is that inappropriate as well?  I don't plan on doing that but people have and will continue to do so regardless of what YOUR opinion is.  Well, I guess then I feel you asking for gifts is inappropriate and improper.  You are indirectly asking people to spend CASH on you to buy you something that maybe YOU should go out and buy yourself if you need it!  I'm not sure how old you are but I have been to many weddings and the registery used to be sent with the invitations, not ON the invitiations, but on a little paper in the wedding invitations.  Good for your 93 yo grandmother, perhaps you shouldn't have asked her to buy you anything?  I'm done discussing this with you.  I feel you are very judgmental and rude in how you respond to others.  It is a matter of opinion, as is everything.  People have differing opinions as I said, that's what makes the world go round.  Have a great wedding day...oh wait, it's not YOUR day...I hope you and all your guests have a great day.
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    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: Wording where We're registered on the Invitation : NO, WE DIDN"T REGISTER....why would we when we don't need anything?  We aren't a young couple just moving out and expecting people to furnish our home!  NO, we DID NOT ask for cash.[/QUOTE]

    Then what did you put on your inserts??


    [QUOTE]I can and will continue to call it MY day because it is.  We are inviting people to share in OUR day.  It is not their day by any means.  They were invited as our guests to share in OUR day.[/QUOTE]

    FALSE!!

    Get that idea out of your head now.  It's not YOUR day.  It's your FI's day too and it's the day of anyone you choose to invite or involve.  Once you do involve others, it stops being about just the two of you.  The ceremony is about the two of you and I'll give you that.  However the reception is the event that is FOR your guests - not for the two of you.  If you continue with this awful notion that it's all about you, you're missing the entire point of why you're inviting people to be there in the first place.  And such a notion is a very selfish one indeed.


    [QUOTE]And asking for gifts is ok?  Wow...amazing how there is a double standard. [/QUOTE]

    I'm not sure where you got the idea from my post that I thought asking for gifts was OK.  Yes, my husband and I had a registry but we never ASKED for items on it. It was there for those who choose to shop from it but we never broadcasted the information on our own or spoke of what we wanted to others unless directly approached.

    [QUOTE]So if people have the "money" dance at their wedding, is that inappropriate as well?  I don't plan on doing that but people have and will continue to do so regardless of what YOUR opinion is.  [/QUOTE]

    Money dances ARE often QUITE rude.  If they're doing the dance to gain a few bucks and not because it's a long standing tradition existing in their families for generations then the dance is extremely offensive.


    [QUOTE]Well, I guess then I feel you asking for gifts is inappropriate and improper.  You are indirectly asking people to spend CASH on you to buy you something that maybe YOU should go out and buy yourself if you need it!  [/QUOTE]

    YES!  This is why I'm not a fan of broadcasting registry information at all.  If someone wants to find a registry to buy a gift that's great.  However I loathe the idea that some couples will actually put the information out there for their guests to see exactly what they want.  It's a crass practice.

    [QUOTE]I'm not sure how old you are but I have been to many weddings and the registery used to be sent with the invitations, not ON the invitiations, but on a little paper in the wedding invitations.  [/QUOTE]

    I'm 30.  I've been to tons of weddings as have my family members before me.  You're COMPLETELY INCORRECT there.  Registry information was NEVER to be sent on or in the contents of the invitations.  Registries themselves are not an old concept.  Years ago they didn't even exist.  Look it up in an etiquette book if you don't believe me.

    [QUOTE]Good for your 93 yo grandmother, perhaps you shouldn't have asked her to buy you anything?[/QUOTE]

    I never DID ask her to buy me anything. My husband and I created a registry and somehow, the clever woman figured it out on her own.  We asked NOT ONE guest to buy us a thing.

    [QUOTE]I'm done discussing this with you.  I feel you are very judgmental and rude in how you respond to others.  It is a matter of opinion, as is everything.  People have differing opinions as I said, that's what makes the world go round.  Have a great wedding day...oh wait, it's not YOUR day...I hope you and all your guests have a great day.
    Posted by BenitaKP[/QUOTE]

    What's event he point of that statement?  I don't think I'm rude.  I'm stating what is and isn't appropriate etiquette - which isn't a matter of opinion.  These are tried and true social laws that have existed for years.  If you interpret my blunt honesty and truth as rude, that is quite unfortunate.  I stated what I have because ideally I hoped you'd listen and avoid making a mistake.

    BTW, did you see the siggy pic below?  I'm already married and have been for almost 3 years.  Our guests LOVED our wedding and spoke of it being one of the best they'd attended in quite some time.

    It's unfortunate that you don't want to come back.  I don't think we were even "discussing".   You were spouting off your unfounded opinion on the matter and I fear that one day your opinions may turn into offensive actions.
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    [QUOTE]We actually had little business cards made up with the registry information to put in with the invitiations.  I have people asking constantly where we were registered.  We aren't registering with a store so we just made up little business cards saying no gift is expected, just their presence is enough but if they would like to contribute to our honeymoon they can do so at <a href="http://www.______.com" rel="nofollow">www.______.com</a>. I ran it by several people and all said it was very tasteful and great!  I don't think it's the total norm anymore to NOT say somewhere in the invitiation, just not on it, where you are registered.
    Posted by BenitaKP[/QUOTE]

    <div>Wow.  This is just disgusting.</div><div>
    </div><div>You should be ashamed of yourself!  </div><div>
    </div><div>I'm embarrassed for you.  I cannot imagine what your friends and family must think of this shameless show of greedy and lack of taste.  You really need to figure out how to do some damage control!  </div>
  • Registries have been around since the 1920s, just saying. hahaha

    I've only ever seen registry info on invitations to Bridal Showers (not wedding invites). Don't worry about it. Your job is only to create the registry your family and friends are supposed to spread the word.  After all you're not inviting them to your wedding just for the gifts, right?
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