Two MOH's?

bumi92485

I'm wanting two matron's of honor, one that is my best friend since second grade and the other since freshman year of college.  They are both so very special  to me in different ways.  I want to ask both to be Matron of honor but my mom says I should ask the one who has been my friend the longest.  What am I to do?

orangecrayon

I would put both of them as bridesmaids instead of having a maid of honor. Simply tell them they both mean so much to you and it was only fair to put them both as bridesmaids. Continue with the planning by giving/taking from both,that way both know where they fit in your life and know that you don't want to upset either of them and this is how all 3 of you can be happy. Best of luck

Mradcliffe8

I say have them both as MOHs! Why not? I'm having 2 MOHs because I can't imagine not asking either of them-- I have 2 other bridesmaids as well. Just be clear upfront about what tasks you expect each of them to help with, so there is no confusion later.

classytasha

i'd say go for it too! i am having to maids of honors and didnt think twice about it good luck

MobKaz

I am having two MOH's and it works perfectly as my fiance is "short" one groomsman---so his BM will be escorting both MOH's down together.  One "dicey" issue that has come up, however, is which of the two MOH's will stand to my immediate left------believe it or not, one of the MOH's has already considered that dilemna------that is my only frustration right now.......is this really supposed to be a competition????

marie22larson

Me too, i have 2 sisters and couldn't imagine one over the other.  Didn't think twice.  No one cares.

TheCranberry

I've been wondering, other than the honor, what's the actual difference between the Maid of Honor and a Bridesmaid?  The only practical differences I can think of is that she may wear a different color dress (or sash or other designation) and stands closest to the bride and holds the bouquet.  Are there other differences?  I've been to weddings where a BM made the reception speech instead of the MOH because she was shy.  When I was a BM, we all planned the bachelorette party and helped her with different things for the wedding because we were all really into it. 

gottahavashorti

Have both as MOH.

LauraMosk263

The way i distinguished between the 2 girls I wanted as MOH and BMs was I made my sister Maid of Honor, my college roommate/best friends Cheif Bridesmaids, and my friend from school and SIL bridesmaids, everyone is happy :-) I don't know how to plan to do the dresses, but I gave them 1 color and let them pick their dresses, the MOH and CheifBM have long dresses, while the 2 BMs have short

bumi92485

I agree what really is the difference, I'm not so sure that is even a good title.  It seems to cause more controversy for the girls than the guys.  I plan on including all the girls in on every detail as they come in so everyone is on the same page and they will probably all wear the same dress, color, etc, so that to the eye no one is more important than the next.  thanks for all the advice!!  Good luck planning to everyone!!

christineandrandy731

I was recently in a wedding as a maid-of-honor. There was another maid-of-honor, too.

I agree that you should communicate to the MOHs clearly ahead of time. I was listed in the program as a maid-of-honor, but only the OTHER MOH stood in the receiving line, took "MOH + Bride" pictures, etc.

 It was a little awkward for me because I had thought I was a MOH, but ultimately, it's about the bride, so it's not like I got upset or anything. It was just awkward

Clear communication would've been nice, especially since I took on many MOH responsiblities (planning and executing the shower and bachelorette party for example). I just felt like people, including the bride, forgot I was a MOH, and it was a little weird...