I am having a problem with my FMIL and my fiance. I have always hated the sound of clinking glasses during the reception to get the bride and groom to kiss. I have never participated in that tradition and never will. It is like nails on a chalkboard to me! So instead I wanted to buy kazoos and then attach a poem to let our guest know to use the kazoos instead. However, both my fiance and FMIL keep telling me that it is a worthless idea, a waste of money, people are going to do it anyway and I should get over myself, etc. I am a very simple and easy person but how do I stand up to them and explain that this is important to me because that sound drives me up the wall and I don't want to hear it on the best day of my life?