Girl for a ring bearer?.... is this too "weird"?

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Neither my FI nor myself can find any family/friends with a son of appropriate age to be the ring bearer. So I was thinking of just using a girl. My wedding is only 85 days away, I dont have the time to keep looking for a little boy. Would having a girl be too weird? She'd be in the same dress as the flower girls

trix1223

Ring bearer is a gender neutral role.  Why couldn't a little girl carry something like a little boy can?

FWIW:  In most weddings, the RB carries fake rings anyway.  The real ones are safely in the possession of a responsible adult:  the best man, MOH, or officiant.

GL

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I know they wouldnt be carrying the actual rings....

When I've presented the idea to some of the bridal party they all looked at me as though I'd  be tearing tradition to shreds lol so I was wondering is it really THAT bad to have a girl? 

Mrs.B6302007

Tell them you won't/didn't judge their wedding choices so ...

 As long as you're following etiquette, you can do whatever you want and if that means a girl RB, so be it.  There were a lot of us who broke "tradition" by not having either a RB or FG at all.

AutumnFair

My friend had her twin cousins be her RBs (they too were just dress in the attire of a FG). So it is totally fine, don't let some people's traditional views of weddings stop you if you have a girl you want to be in the WP. 

Robyn5298

I see nothing wrong with a female ring bearer, but I can understand why people are a little puzzled by the idea. If you've never heard of it before it does sound a bit funny at first. I think it's the same with female ushers - yes, usher and ring bearer are both gender neutral roles, but most people think of them as being traditionally male. If you and your fiance have your hearts set on having a ring bearer, I say go ahead with your plan. But if you think it over and it still seems odd to you both, you could always skip the ring bearer position all together and have all 3 little girls be flower girls. Like you said, the Best Man or Maid of Honor would hold the rings anyway so you don't really need a ring bearer. Either way, the kids will be adorable and your wedding will be beautiful!

mm4662

Do it. It'll make your wedding unique!

CassieeK

I think it's sweet. 

artbyallie

It's perfectly fine to have a female ring bearer, with the caveat that you should only have kids in the wedding at all if you're close to them, i.e. not just using them as cute props (not that you're doing this, of course).

kgorman307

my sister was the RB at our older sister's wedding (she was 8). It wasn't weird at all - most of the RB pillows are pretty darn girly anyway

mbcdefg

A girl ring bearer? What's next, a girl doctor? Lawyer? Soldier?

Kidding.

However, it's silly to just find some kid to fill the role. If you have a little girl that you want to include, by all means ask her. But if you have to "find someone to use," then just don't have a ring bearer.

shopgrl3177

Not weird at all, go for it!

sarah0725

Well, some people have their dogs as ring bearers, so at least this little girl is human.

...right?

RebeccaB88

I was the ringbearer in my aunt's wedding when I was about 8.  I dressed similarly to the flower girls.  Nobody thought it was weird.

knisaa2

Not at all weird! When I was 5, my grandmother re-married and I was the flower girl. Her now husbands neice was the ringbearer and looking back at the pictures, they were really cute!

janicejab

I hope it's not weird because we're going to have a little girl be our ring bearer. She and the flower girl are wearing the same dresses. I think it's weirder to ask a little boy you barely know or aren't close to to be you RB than to have a little girl do it. If you aren't close to any little girls or boys, you can always skip having a ring bearer all together.