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I have a friend, who I used to be very close with, until she got married and put her own friends and life on the back burner for her husband. She's a completly different person now then she was before they got married and we rarely see or talk to each other now.  I was her MOH for her wedding two years ago (when we were close) and now that I'm getting hitched and would like her to be involved in the wedding, whats everyones opinion on asking her to MC the reception???

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    I wouldn't ask her to. That's a job. Your DJ or band can do that. Let her enjoy the reception by just being a guest. I'd be pretty pissed if I spent the entire reception leading everyone else through all the fun.
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    Maybe its the area I live in, but every wedding I've been to always had a close friend or family member as the MC someone who knows both the Bride, Groom and the bridal party. I wouldn't even know how to ask my DJ. I think it'd be awkward.
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    MCing is a job that should be paid. 
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    I vote for just letting her enjoy herself as a guest. As MC, she'll be "on" all night instead of getting to relax. I'd rather be "left out" entirely and get to have fun, than to be given a pity job where I have to worry about doing something.

    Could she do a reading in the ceremony?
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    I think guest sounds like a good position for her.  MC sounds like something that should come with a paycheck.
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    OP, also, you said that it would be awkward for the dj to do it....why? That's what they are paid to do. How hard is it to say the bride and groom's names and follow a schedule? 

    As an actor, I KNOW that this job (even if she's just your friend) is a tough job....you have to be "ON" all night. It's tiring when she could be enjoying herself. Also, let's say god forbid, she has too much champagne or gets sloshy....these are all worst case scenarios...but at least with the DJ you have a contract and he has to follow said contract. He can't drink on the job, etc.
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_wedding-party_dont-want-insult-anyone?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:37Discussion:559c4a89-0c57-41b0-b27c-770e863bd976Post:06823c55-c288-4d54-b1c5-d3a2c36a5b27">Re: Don't want to insult anyone</a>:
    [QUOTE]MCing is a job that should be paid. 
    Posted by stina93446[/QUOTE]

    Yup.

    That's what your event coordinator is for or the DJ. That's all she wrote.
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    MC is part of the DJ's job.  You don't have to ask.  It's part of the package.

    Just let this girl come as a guest.  Putting her to work is not going to make her feel better about your drifted friendship.  
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_wedding-party_dont-want-insult-anyone?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:37Discussion:559c4a89-0c57-41b0-b27c-770e863bd976Post:20198918-3aff-4b24-9fa8-62defea2faa2">Re: Don't want to insult anyone</a>:
    [QUOTE]MC is part of the DJ's job.  You don't have to ask.  It's part of the package. Just let this girl come as a guest.  Putting her to work is not going to make her feel better about your drifted friendship.  
    Posted by MyNameIsNot[/QUOTE]
    Ditto this.

    I MCed a friend's wedding.  It was honestly kind of a pain, because I had to be hyper aware of what was going on and where I had to be when.  I volunteered to be her DOC as a gift, but had she just suggested that I do it for her, I would have been less than thrilled.
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    In my area this is pretty out there. I've never heard of a friend MCing the reception. Personally I would be offended because this is something you hire someone to do. I would graciously say no if I were her. JMO
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    I definitely don't think you'll be insulting anyone by just having her as a guest. I would say, unless she offers or asks to "do" something for your wedding, being a guest is a great "job".

    You said you want her to be involved, and she definitely will be involved as a guest. There's no need for everyone special to you to have a "job" or a "place of honor" at your wedding. Just because you don't give a job to someone at your reception/wedding doesn't make them any less important in your life. It just means they won't have to work at your wedding.
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    Ditto PPs I would not ask her to MC

    I'm an event planner and often have to MC my events and it is very stressful!! You can't really enjoy the event.  It is definitely a job you should hire someone for. That is what the DJ is for!

    Have her do a reading or come as a guest. That's an honor too!
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    Do not ask her to do anything. If you are worred about insulting her, do not be. Her wedding was two years ago and you said that you both drifted apart.
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    I would hate having to be an emcee.  Being a guest at any party is far more fun than working at the party, and that's what you're asking of your friend.

    Skip the emcee part.  Go for guest, which is also an honor.
    "Trix, it's what they/our parents wanted. Why so judgemental? And why is your wedding date over a year and a half ago? And why do you not have a groom's name? And why have you posted over 12,000 posts? And why do you always say mean things to brides?" palegirl146
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    Ditto everyone else.  I'm not sure why you would feel weird asking your DJ to do this.  It is what you are paying him to do in addition to playing music.  I don't care what area you are from I'm fairly certain that the responsibilities of the DJ don't vary that much.
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