Update from "disturbed post"

sweet_melissa81

Well, the guy didn't show up for work today. They asked him why he didn't go home and his excuse was that he got pulled over and the police made him stay in a hotel. Um... okay whatever! Everyone thinks he hooked up with this girl and I'm sure his wife doesn't buy that story either.

Nevertheless, I'm glad that this person is just a coworker of my fiance's friend and not at all related to us, but it still bothers me that my fiance's friend and his wife will still be interacting with this girl. I am hoping that my fiance's friend will tell his wife what happened and that she will no longer want to spend time with her seeing as she is more of an acquaintance with her than a really good friend, but I also wouldn't be surprised if she didn't even care.

I really wish that if these two were deciding to be scumbags they wouldn't have dragged other people into their mess. They should have just met up on their own time, not when they were hanging out with coworkers and their clients. Highly unprofessional for business people to be behaving, but whatever.

Just wanted to update you on what I heard.

Megbo2012

Ick.  That's just so sad.  And gross.

peachykeen26

You know, this really makes me sick to my stomach. And, my heart aches for his wife. I hope, for all it's worth, she makes the best decision.

Maybe his hotel room was a jail cell? Bah hahaha.

What an a$$.

Seriously. I don't think I would put up with that from my FI. EVER! 

My FMIL and FSIL would probably kill him before I even found out though. 

Thank God, FI's dad cheated and he has seen what it does to women and families so he has vowed to me that he will never do anything like that and that if he even has thoughts he will tell me and we will go from there. 

Maybe some serious Christian Healing Couples Counseling will help?

(Not trying to push God on anyone, of course.)

sweet_melissa81

I don't know this man's wife and this was the first time I met him, but it was a really inconsiderate thing for both of them to do for multiple reasons. I suppose it really  isn't mine or fiance's business, but now this man's coworkers are involved in his business because they were the last ones to see him with this girl. That really puts those guys in a very awkward position especially since they've all hung out with each other's spouses and families etc. My fiance absolutely has no choice in interacting with this woman because she is the only business contact for one of the biggest companies that his company does business with. I totally trust him, but could you imagine how bad her reputation can get now? My fiance told one of the other guys at his office about the ordeal. Not because he was trying to do anything mean, but just to tell him. So now that guy knows about it.

I really wish fiance would have never told me, but I am glad that he was able to confirm that my feelinds and intuition were spot on and that I'm not over judgemental which he originally thought I was being.

peachykeen26

Here again, you aren't responsible. FI isn't responsible. 

This guy has to clean up his mess and deal with it. I hope he had one hell of a night.

MoonlightSilver

I think, if you're going to be worried about interacting with people, you should be worried both about the girl and the coworker who didn't go home to his wife. It takes two people to cheat, not one, and I personally put a lot more blame on the married person.

On the other hand, perhaps he did get pulled over and spent the night in jail, and doesn't want his coworkers or boss to find out. For the sake of his wife, I'd drop the whole story and not mention it again if I was your FI.