Not sure I'm doing this wedding thing right.

pinkpanther_truck

My vision for my wedding and reception was an outdoor lakeside ceremony and a hors d'oeuvre reception with a "Happy Hour" feel to it following.In my attempt to create that vision. I wanted to have 8 round banquet tables (each seats 8) and 5 or 6 high-top tables (positioned near the dance floor). But, now, I'm having second thoughts. Mom says I should have round banquet tables with seating for everyone (90-100 people)... but I don't see how I can possibly have everyone sitting at these tables and NOT serve them dinner. Ugh!Until today I was excited about planning this thing. Then, during lunch, my co-worker asked how everything was going and after explaining what I had planned, I suddenly became self-conscious about the whole thing. I'm not usually emotional like this... But I really worried that this thing will be a flop. I don't know what to do... I really want a casual, sophistocated event where people mingle and dance. But now I'm afraid it just going to turn into a hodgepodge of a potluck/back woods church fellowship. (No offense to my back woods church folk, I'm one, too. Saint Paul Missionary Baptist stand up!) Any suggestions? I'm ready to scrap it and head to the courthouse and invite everyone to Buca di Peppo afterward. *sigh*

MrsW2000

I went to a wedding like that last year.  I didn't find anything wrong with it other than the fact that they had potatoe chips as part of the appetizers ;-)  The only difference is they had it in what looked like a small convention center or something but they had sit down tables for their guests as well as high top tables and they didn't serve a sit down dinner it was an hors d'oeuvre reception served buffet style.  There didn't seem to be any complaints at all to me from a guest's perspective.  Your vision sounds absolutely wonderful and even better than the wedding I attending.  I say go for it!

MrsW2000

I attending= I attended

rhodesign

I'd stick with the mix of high boys and rounds. Nothing wrong with your vision!

miss2mrscj

Stick with your vision. It sounds really nice to me. You can't please everyone.

Lovie 129

Everything you described sounds relaxing and chilled. Most would like that atmosphere. Stay with your vision, and don't worry about it. We all have second thoughts about wedding planning.

khaligumbs

I agree with the ladies who say stick to your vision. Sit down tables lead to the assumption of having dinner. Set up your reception like a lounge...high low tables maybe even a couch. Get some candles dim the lights and you would be good to go. Let me know what you decide. Trust me if you have all sit down tables and no dinner...it will just be plain weird.

Deidra123

I think that what your Mom might be afraid of is, if you only have 8 tables that each seat 8, there isn't going to be enough seating if, by chance, everyone does not mingle and most want to sit.  It's kind of like, then what?  What if you were a woman stuck at a wedding and your feet hurt and there was no chair for you to sit in, and you didn't want to mingle b/c your feet hurt.  Well, if you plan to maybe have good music, you can be assured that lots of folk will dance at the same time that the food is out so everyone that wants to sit, can probably sit.  To be safe, you might consider adding 2 tables adn keeping the 5-6 high-top tables.  That way, everyone can sit that wants to sit, and you still get the same "look" as the combination rounds and high-tops.  Is there space for two more rounds?

tippytoe1981

i know it's hard to ignore what your mother says, but i agree with everyone else, stick to your original plans.  only you know the vision and it's sometimes hard to relate the vision to others- especially mothers who may not really know what the latest trends in weddings are.  but i think that a mix of tables are perfectly fine.  i saw a reception where they only had 2 5ft round tables and the rest high tops. so it was definitely a cocktail/mingle type reception.  and the crowd looked like they had a great time! i think you're doing a great job and don't worry about what anybody else says.  the main things that people tried to talk me out of having for my wedding are the exact same things that i got so many compliments on- and they were small little things that were not traditonal.  different is a good thing. i say go for it!!!

Spim7

We'll be doing an hor' douevre buffet and having round banquet tables to seat everyone. It just worked better for us because our reception is starting at 1pm and we knew it was too early for dinner and we didn't really want to serve lunch.

pinkpanther_truck

Thanks for your input and encouragement, Ladies. I'm going to try to stick with my vision... I like the couch idea, Khali. Reading your feedback made me feel a lot better... To MsW, no potato chips at this reception... hehe. That one caught me off guard, girl. Deidra, I didn't think about it like that. Thanks for the perspective. If the couch thing doesn't work out, there's room for a couple of additional tables. Thanks, again for the honesty and reassurance!