Just can't take it!--Done! (Sorry...long)

jonsmeshondra

OK...this has been the hardest decision for me to make. I've been stressing about it off/on for months. I feel like an a@@ for even having to make this decision. I decided to break it off w/my FI about 6 wks ago, then decided we'd try to make it work. I felt ok about it for a minute. But really since then, I'm just not feeling our relationship. If any of you remember a post from a few months back, we have a long distance relationship. I'm in Indiana, and he's in Michigan. I'd never been in a LD relationship before, but I still never thought it would be this hard. It has really gotten to the point that I don't even really want to talk to him anymore. I still care about him deeply, but do I love him? I'm honestly not sure. I don't think I do. It's really bad because he hasn't done anything wrong to me or my children. I don't think he's cheated or anything. Its just the feelings that I previously had are gone. I tried to hold on to them but ...I think they're gone.  And he's truly a wonderful person so that makes it so much worse.He hadn't been home (Indiana) in the last 2 wks but will be this weekend. So now I'm searching for the words and the courage to tell him. I'd rather tell him now before my feelings get any worse. I mean, I don't want to start treating him bad or rude. Thanks for listening! You girls have been great. I'll miss you guys!!

braxtongirl

I pray that God gives your the words to help your situation. A quote from a movie.... "Love is many things. Its varied.. One thing it is not and can never be is unsure." (Madea's family Reunion) I think that you are doing the right thing if u are unsure.  

Reid101

Relationships get so hard sometimes.....Please believe me when I say. I am praying for you!

brobin01

aWWW I am so sorry for this situation. Dang, I feel bad for ol boy too. But guess what, you have to do what is best for you and go with your gut. Its better to break it off now than going through with a marriage. I wish you the best of luck and I hope you both heal from this... We luv ya girl!

OFF

If you don't feel as deeply for him as you once did it's best for you to break it off. It would be better to do it now than like you said do it after you get mean. You're doing the right thing and I'm sure when the time comes you will find the strength and courage to let him go. I hope things will work out for both you. Good luck.

jonsmeshondra

Thanks ladies as always for your thoughts,prayers, and words of wisdom!! I hope and pray everything turns out ok for us too. My sister told me stop acting like the Cowardly Lion and just say it. I've always appreciated the fact that we could talk openly about pretty much everything--politics,religion,etc. I'm sure he'll be upset but hopefully (at least in time) he will be able to appreciate my honesty. I feel like I've been stringing him along, and I'm not that type of person AT ALL!! I feel guilty already so I need to get it over and done with!

Ladysun083

im sorry to hear this, but the most important person that you have to be honest with is yourself, I wish you the best of luck! and we are always here to lend an ear.

2010MayBride

Im sorry to hear this but you have to be honest with yourself. Its better to get the courage now than to wait a couple of years down the road after you get married. That would be really hard! LD relationships are hard! I pray that you get the courage to tell him and that he understands!

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Oh wow, maybe its just the distance you guys being so far away......maybe if u see each other in person???? I remember my fiance told me the same thing u are about to tell him, and it destroyed me but i had to let go i couldnt force him to be with me, but i didnt think i could do it, but i had to, so we set a date and time to exchange our things, and when he saw me he broke down crying saying how much he loved me and needed me and how he wanted me in his life now and forever, but he just hate that we are apart, mind u u guys i live in NJ, he lives in the bronx...smh, maybe u guys just need to see each other more.

Lovie 129

I'm sorry to read that, honesty is always best, even if it hurts. Maybe you can remain friends and cultivate a different type of relationship. Prayers going out to you.

jonsmeshondra

TheMrs..that's what happened when I broke it off with him the 1st time. I broke down so terribly. Girl, I was pathetic, crying and snotting all over him. So...we were good for a little while. But I just honestly don't think I can continue it. I feel like I'm just going through the motions--dragging it out for nothing. My heart just isn't in it anymore. I do hope that he/I can remain friends. We were very good friends prior to being in a relationship. So hopefully after some time, we can be friends again. Thanks again Ladies for all your words of encouragement!