WHYYYY!!!!! It has begun!!! Please don't tell me it is the 100 day CURSE!!!

YasJas2011

Please tell me why I have someone that RSVP on our Website that is not even invited! She is the cousin of my brother and sister. I had no intentions of inviting her. I have been sending out postcards about hotel accommodations and save the dates like a year ago! You have received nothing, but you are R.S.V.Ping! SMFDH!!! Why me!? What am I suppose to do with this? Please don't tell me that it is a 100 day curse! UUGGHH!!!

brittanyl8605

Aw dang! That's one of my biggest fears. You better go ahead and write that "You were not invited" script. I also put my on site to only rsvp if you received an invitation. But people will do their own thing regardless.

wheatney22

First of all, I laughed when I read that. So she basically invited herself! She might as well have gotten the information on the bridesmaids dresses and bought herself a dress as well. Since she's decided to take matters into her own hands. That is just RUDE!

In all seriousness though, you should find out how she got the information to your site. If it was from your brother or sister, then they need to let her know that you are having a "close family and close friends" event. If you can't find out who invited her, then perhaps a private email to her to let her know that you would really love to catch up with her at some point before or after the wedding but due to your tight budget, it wouldn't be possible to include her on the guest list.

Since she's not really your friend or relative, she shouldn't take offense to that. Shame on her for inviting herself!

halfpin21

WTH!!!! *woosaa*  I wouldn't even call her back...get your mom or someone to call her and let them tell her that you unfortunately cannot accomodate her. 

vfriday

OMG!  Who does that?  This is probably the one and only con to having an online RSVP.
You may have to send a lovely note, e-mail or make a call saying that your wedding and reception are by invitation only due to budgetary restrictions.  A space will not be made available for her. 

You can also see how your no responses come back and give her one of those spaces if you don't want to be confrontational.

Praying for your peace of mind.

sweets18

That happened to me too! That's why I immediately had a password put on the RSVP page of the website. Can you put a password on it? I included the password on the RSVP card sent out with the invites so only invited guests would know it... Idk what to do about the girl though...

sweetjess2011

Wow! I cant believe people would do that. Im dreading the RSVP part of the planning process. I wish you luck and if you are able to lock the RSVP part I would!

Carla1019

Is there anyone who cannot attend that was invited. If she is the only one that invited herself than I would go ahead and let her come. No need to stir up a possible family feud over one person. Now if multiple people invited themselves then thats another story. I've been told to expect either 10% to no show or 10% to attend unexpectedly. This way you don't stress.

YasJas2011

Lord!!  Well thanks ladies for the advice! Headed over to see can I lock it or not display it until the invites go out.

lil01

Lol....I'm sorry...I'll admit that I did laugh at that one. Bet I won't be laughing when I start getting my crazy rsvps back!

Anyway......you should find out who gave her the website and information & tell them to not do that again...lol. And yes......send her an email to let her know that you only have seats reserved for those who received a STD.
 
Is there a way you can put on the website "by invitation only" or something like that? Just to let "visitors" know that the rsvp is only for those who received a STD in the mail.

mrswac58

OMG! Poeple have nerve! I'm sorry you have to deal with this.

Question: What site are you ladies using for the rsvp's?

YasJas2011

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/cultural-wedding-boards_african-american-weddings_whyyyy-begun-please-dont-tell-100-day-curse?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Cultural%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:400Discussion:b11144db-2290-43cb-ae6c-471ca42a081cPost:69e07a90-0116-4103-b4e7-b072d65ba51e">Re: WHYYYY!!!!! It has begun!!! Please don't tell me it is the 100 day CURSE!!!</a>:
[QUOTE]OMG! Poeple have nerve! I'm sorry you have to deal with this. Question: What site are you ladies using for the rsvp's?
Posted by mrswac58[/QUOTE]
I am using Mywedding.com. But I wish I would have used the one from wedding wire! You can put a pass word on that one.

ellone400

wow wth was she thinking some nerve

busybruck

I have my website set up so that people can only RSVP if I have entered them on my guest list. They have to search for their name and if they can't find their name they have to call me and I will have to let them know. I had to stop that before it got started. I also have FMIL telling people to look for their name and they weren't invited. So I got a lot of calls. I had to let her know, stop telling people.

mahoganieyes

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/cultural-wedding-boards_african-american-weddings_whyyyy-begun-please-dont-tell-100-day-curse?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Cultural Wedding BoardsForum:400Discussion:b11144db-2290-43cb-ae6c-471ca42a081cPost:6064cf63-065d-47b2-ab48-04e1370c949a">Re: WHYYYY!!!!! It has begun!!! Please don't tell me it is the 100 day CURSE!!!</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: WHYYYY!!!!! It has begun!!! Please don't tell me it is the 100 day CURSE!!! : I am using Mywedding.com. But I wish I would have used the one from <strong>wedding wire</strong>! You can put a pass word on that one.
Posted by YasJas2011[/QUOTE]

That's my site!!!

hotrocker2011

That's very rude...I just added the "by invite only" to my site...I would call or email her and let her down nicely....

LSAS

WTH!!!! Who does that?

YasJas2011

SMH!!!

shesheduke

Wow is all I can say the nerve of some people WOW!

cyndon

Amazing!!!  People sure can be bold.  Now her face is going to be cracked when she doesn't get an invite.

tyboyd

I'm using MyWedding.com, too. BUT on FB and the STD, I used the TK website. But on the RSVP card ONLY, I used the MyWedding website. So, if you don't get an invite, you shouldn't even know about the MyWedding site. 

marinabreeze

I have a weddingwire website, and I have a password -and- guests can't RSVP unless they are on the list.  I agree with PPs.  Either track down whoever it was that gave her the info to RSVP and have them tell them, or just tell her directly that "I'm sorry but we can't invite everyone we would've wanted to."