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Wow, mrs.conn, that board doesn't disappoint.

Right out of the nightmares of every kid of divorced parents:

DH says that our child is a "redo"

DH and I have decided not to find out the sex of our LO.  I asked him what he wanted and why.  He wants a boy so he can have a name sake (the 5th) and wants a girl as it would be his chance for a redo. Really?!?

DH currently has as DD that is 9.  DH & the mom do not get along and he was unable to see her for the first 2 years of her life.  We now get her for 6 weeks in the summer and over Christmas break.  While the reletionship has gotten better, it's not like he would like it.

I understand where he is coming from as I do not have a reletionship with my biological father.  However, I'm really hurt as I feel that this shouldn't have been his number one reason for wanting a girl.  I just feel like DH wanted a baby because something he did with another woman didn't go the way he wanted it to, so now it's my job/ our LOs job to fix it.

Given that I'm extra hormonal I haven't said anything, but he knows something is upsetting me.  Am I over reacting and should I say something?  Thanks!


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Re: Wow, mrs.conn, that board doesn't disappoint.

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    mrsconn23mrsconn23 member
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    edited December 2011
    I know.  There's so many hot messes on that board.  It's kind of sad, really.  Especially for all the children involved. 

    I rarely post on that board anymore.  I just don't relate to 90% of the BS that gets posted on that board.

    But the drama is sure entertaining.
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    ReturnOfKuusReturnOfKuus member
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    edited December 2011
    What i can't believe is that no one is commenting on most of the shenanigans.  I've always assumed that people with blended families are for the most part perfectly normal, sane people who like most of us have had a serious relationship that ultimately didn't work out, but now I'm starting to wonder.
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    mrsconn23mrsconn23 member
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    edited December 2011
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_wedding-woes_wow-mrsconn-board-doesnt-disappoint?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:47Discussion:b390d9b0-ce5a-4639-a124-e5e2f2096b1ePost:e9ddeed7-0262-4fea-bca8-578f56c4bcfb">Re: Wow, mrs.conn, that board doesn't disappoint.</a>:
    [QUOTE]What i can't believe is that no one is commenting on most of the shenanigans.  I've always assumed that people with blended families are for the most part perfectly normal, sane people who like most of us have had a serious relationship that ultimately didn't work out, but now I'm starting to wonder.
    Posted by ReturnOfKuus[/QUOTE]

    Oh hell no!  Most of those people are as screwed up as the day is long.  My side-eye gets a workout on that board.  I would say that 70% of the posts are just petty drama because people are resentful and just can't.let.things.go.
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    Butter CookieButter Cookie member
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    edited December 2011
    I'm sure his older child would feel AWESOME if she knew this.
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    baconsmombaconsmom member
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    edited December 2011
    This is why I have my people-with-kids-shouldn't-get-serious theory. It only works for a tiny percentage of people, and meanwhile, all those other kids are getting shafted. 
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