I know it isn't Wednesday...but...

littlemoments324

I'm really upset right now...and I'm probably overreacting, but I'm pretty ticked off at myself for giving in to some people on the guest list....

There are about 10 people that I really really really wanted to be there...and I couldn't invite them because we had to cut the guest list...but yet, I allowed my dad's F*ing bar friends to be invited to the wedding only because he gave us some money for the wedding...least I could do??? (I guess)...but I'm seriously regretting not inviting them...and it's kinda too late now because we really are at our max...

and I don't want to be like hey, I need your address, when it's 1.5 months before the wedding & just now sending invites out to them...=(

I'm just totally bummed about it because these 10 people mean more to FI & I than my dad's F*ing gosh darn bar friends....bahhhhh!!! =(  why!?!?! ugh.....I need to grow a backbone sometimes...I should have told my dad to shove it...

colleenm18

Oh LM that really stinks!!!

Not in the exact same position but I wanted a small wedding (150ish guest list) and I am at 262 because of FI stepmom.  She is paying for her half of the guest list which is about 100 people!  Its a little insane and so many of them I dont even know or have only met once or twice its just a little annoying!  I am with you and just wish I had a little more of a back bone

butterflyjumper1

awwww littlemoments, that totally stinks!!

I am going through something similar with my parents right now. They are paying for 80% of our entire wedding, w fiance's parents pitching in a little and us pitching in a little. my mom decided to add 13 (thirteen!) of her college friends to the guest list TODAY, as I am working on invites. my dad added 4. I now only have 3 extra invitations instead of 10! it's crazy!!!!!

It sucks that you can't invite any of your friends  

michelle11988

I know exactly what you are going through.  I ended up ending about 6 people within the last week before sending out invites.  I wish I had put my foot down on some of my parents' friends as well.  I don't anyone will mind that they are getting invited now! Have you sent out invitations yet? If not you have time to add/remove as much as you want without anyone noticing.

littlemoments324

=( I'm seriously at the point of wanting to cry....

butterflyjumper1

yeah, why couldn't you add them?!? if your dad added people, so can you....I doubt your friends will notice that it is now 1.5 months out - only us knotties who are OCD with wedding planning care about things like "sending our invites before the 2 month mark!"  

littlemoments324

yea, I've already sent out invites...I sent them out on Tuesday...people are already getting them...I really think we'll have close to 100% show up...I'm just bummed out...ugh...I just feel like going off on my dad! give me X amount so I can invite these people who mean a lot to us....BAHH but that is rude...lol and I am not rude...unless I have the right to be...

littlemoments324

we got the 'final' estimate bill & we really can't afford to add 10 more people...especially since we think we'll have a 95% show up

michelle11988

Eeeks, I'm really sorry that you can't afford these people now because of your dads friends.  Anyway you can just bring it up to your dad about how his friends pushed you over your budget and you would really appreciate some sort of a contribution towards the head count due to that?  I know its totally rude but eh sometimes you just have to stand up for yourselves! It also seems rude to me that he assumed he could invite 10 people.

littlemoments324

ugh part of me thinks thats the only reason why he contributed money: 1) he wanted his extended family there, when I did, but didn't....2) he wanted 10 of his bar friend couples there, I put my foot down & cut back to 3 that I actually know & 'approve' of...3) he's going to be crap faced at my wedding...not looking forward to this...4) he isn't going to be happy with me when I tell him that he & my stepdad are walking me down the aisle...

dawnleanna1

Aww, that totally sucks. Maybe you'll get some regrets you weren't planning on? I would wait and see, and try to add as many of those friends you could. I don't think they would be offended if they got a late invite. 

dawnleanna1

Aww, that totally sucks. Maybe you'll get some regrets you weren't planning on? I would wait and see, and try to add as many of those friends you could. I don't think they would be offended if they got a late invite. 

mekiakoo

Ugh that sucks. I am so sorry!  I know this is against etiquette, but do you think you could talk with your friends and explain the situation (how you are very sad about this and really want them to come) and see if they'd like to come if some of your dad's friends don't show up?

We are only inviting very few of our friends because FI comes from a HUGE family. I am still bummed about not being able to invite more friends. We are hoping that 35 will say no though, so we are already way above our max.