My fiance and I have been dating for 2 and 1/2 years, so naturally the topic of marriage has been very much out in the open for the last year or so. It shouldn't be of any sunrise to our friends (or family) for that matter, but I'm still worried.
My mom is truly my best friend, but as with most best friends, she is the person I vent to about my relationship. She hears all the bad, with the good, but she tends to dwell on the bad. I feel like she doesn't completely accept our relationship and I fear that she is hoping that we will move on and find new people. While she has hinted towards this, she has never explicitly said this is what she thinks.
My family is very southern, and quite traditional. This combined with my mother's distain for my fiance makes me worry that she will be upset that he didn't ask permission. I don't know what to do. A friend suggested that I give the ring back and allow my fiance time to ask properly and then stage a "redo proposal". But wouldn't my family be madder if the found out later in the process that we lied to them? I don't know how to tell my mom without really hurting her, and making her like my fiance even less.