(This post is not quick. Sorry lol.)
A year ago, I'd never guess that I would be engaged now. That January, I had just broken up with a bf I'd been with for about a year and three months bc I felt like my feelings had changed/something was wrong, and found out 9 hours later that he'd been cheating on me for about 5 months. So during the months that followed, I pulled myself together and really thought about how approached relationships and about how I thought about myself in terms of the person I wanted to be, etc. It was much needed therapy because I believe I used my past relationships as a way to avoid or “compensate” for personal issues I needed to deal with. I came out of the situation a much better person that I was before, aware of my strengths and had learned to love myself despite my weaknesses.
And then I met him... A guy from Louisiana with big cute ears and an infectious personality sat beside me one day at church. Once I let my guard down, things moved pretty quickly... I literally broke down in tears one night because I knew I'd found my other half and have never felt happier. We got engaged after 9 months, and we’re planning to get married in a little over 11 months.
Its been a couple of weeks now, a ppl’s comments about how “quick” we are doing this is bothering me and almost making me second guess our decision. Although we are probably moving quicker than the “norm”, it hasn’t all been smooth sailing. He became aware of a medical issue 3 months into our relationship. Although it’s not fatal, it will impact him for the rest of his life. About three months after that, one of my best friends, my grandmother, passed away. We were both at a really low point during this time and relied on each other for support.
Based on our time together and what I’ve learned during the past couple of years, I think I’m ready and I know he’s the right one. But I don’t want to rush a good thing either. I'm thinking that some of the comments could be because of my age (I'm 24, he's turning 28 in August)... Do you know of anyone or is there anyone out there that got married/engaged “quickly”?