I've lost my mind - random vent

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Is anyone else out there loosing their mind planning their wedding? I have changed my mind on nearly every single decision that I have made and fear that I am turning into an indecisive monster. I feel so awful for my vendors, as I know I must be a nightmare client, and am feeling very guilty. I hate upsetting people.

I just want to marry the Mister...

olivehim

Yes!  You are not alone in the "losing your mind" department!  It is easy to lose focus of the true meaning behind all of this chaos...marrying our beloved guys.  I'm changing my mind on a daily basis about every aspect of this thing.  I just decided today that I for sure need to go back and try on dresses like Chelsea Clinton's when I already have my own dress for crying out loud!  I won't do it, but my mind is occupied with these types of thoughts ALL...day...long.  I think it's normal?  Maybe?  I hate asking my bridesmaids to do things and I apologize to them all the time.  Thank goodness they're sweethearts but my fear of becoming a bridezilla is overwhelming sometimes.
Deep breaths....We will all get through this together!  And, regardless of our choices, it's important to remember that the end result will always be the same ~ a wonderful day surrounded by those we love followed by a lifetime of wedded bliss!
Hang in there!

kaylas16

Oh it's definately consuming my brain!!  Pretty sure all brides feel that way at some point... or the whole time It shouldn't be, but I feel like planning is a lot of pressure!!

Good thing we have the knot to vent on

MN_Jen

Totally normal. 

When I started second-guessing all of my decisions, I stepped away from the wedding planning for a few days.  That always helped me gain a little clarity and focus.

And when it comes to the big day, all the little details won't matter.  You will be married!  You wedding will be absolutely wonderful.

debbieupper

I definitely think I'm losing my mind, but instead of second guessing my decisions, I'm getting lazy about them and caring less and less whether or not our programs are some cute, perfect Martha Stewart DIY ... I guess that's what the 3-month mark will do to you!

shan87

I'm not letting myself second guess anymore I already changed photographers and thats it! Otherwise it will snowball. I am however, thinking I am going to add lil something extra to the flowers still
But I do agree that its consuming! I feel withdrawls if I don't keep up with the Knot

elizabethandandrew

Oh I am with you totally. I had a complete bridezilla sobbing mess meltdown last night and was about to just forfeit deposits, call everyone and tell them the wedding was off, and elope to Vegas just the two of us.

honeybear25

Oh you are not alone sister!!!  I am almost (like 5 days) away from the 90 day mark and have now decided on a whim I want to do all these DIY projects!  Then of course after I sepnd about three hours in about five craft stores each I realize its a huge mistake but already have the stuff and returning is just about as time consuming!  PLus I am not really a crafty type creative yes but my visions should probably be carried out by someone who knows whats up with that type of craft.  I haven't changed my mind on any big decision thank god but I am definitly overwhelmed and worried about what people will think which is soo not like me!  Up until now I have thoroughly enjoyed all the planning so I had to step away, read a very good romance novel and remembered why I want to be married!  Definitly put me back in focus.  FI (finally) decided to help with a few things no nagging necessary and it will be beautiful cuz it's ours so We will all make it through but yes the ride does feel like it veers of the track a time or two so far!