This doesn't seem right...

aabrahams7

5 days to go and am abnormally calm. I am not one to freak out or go nuts on people for little things, but I have really high anxiety. Once I got to the 30 day mark, my anxiety went through the roof and now..nothing. No excitement, no fear, no stress....WTF?? I don't think it has really hit me yet.  Please someone tell me I am 1/2 normal..

jenn920

Jealous.... my anxiety came on like a train wreck today!!  Suddenly second-guessing all of my decisions..... worrying that my bridesmaid who was on bedrest for 18 weeks and was expected to deliver a month ago but is STILL pregnant and 40 weeks on FRIDAY will go into labor during our ceremony..... maybe I picked the wrong first dance song... maybe we should have done a cake to cut instead of just cupcakes.... maybe I might have chosen the wrong pedicure....LOL I am losing my mind

I think you are definitely half normal, and very lucky!!!  I hope it doesn't hit you at all at a bad time... and if it does, do what I did - crack a bottle of wine

SSaltzman87

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[QUOTE] I think you are definitely half normal, and very lucky!!!  I hope it doesn't hit you at all at a bad time... and if it does, do what I did - crack a bottle of wine :)
Posted by jenn920[/QUOTE]
I'd think that if you weren't at least a little nervous, then that'd be something to worry about :-p Completely agree on the wine, or a good margarita!

maybe984

I was totally the same way. Despite a million tiny things that were going haywire, I was as cool as a cucumber for the entire week before the wedding. I DID have excitement, but it was all very under-control... which is NOT usually who I am. It's usually who I APPEAR to be to others (I can feel like a crazy neurotic mess and people will still say "Oh, you seem so relaxed and serene!"... it's just part of my personality) but I was totally feeling the calm before the wedding, not just looking like it.

So, yes, I think you're normal. Just as long as 'calm' doesn't turn into dread or boredom.

FutureMrsS13

Im freaking out... and my wedding isnt until 2013.. NOW something is WRONG  with me! ( its about guest list tho)

  Hope it doesnt hit you too hard :)

aabrahams7

Rest assured...no dread or regret. I am happy about the whole marriage and next step, I just thought I would be bouncing off the walls as this point. I am sure when Friday rolls around and we go to rehearsal it will be a different story, it just feels so weird.

TaffetaDarlingTaffeta

You are completely normal! Everybody deals with this stuff differently. For me, I was incredibly calm and focused...... Like I was working on a creative endeavor. Which it was. Our whole event was free flowing and dependent on the trust of friends and family who helped out. We had a very DIY event.... No official vendors. Like I did not even know what the cake and flowers looked like! But it didn't matter. I am marrying my love. How hard is that? ( even though i am a creative control freak) the day after the wedding I was a mess! Crying, laughing, horny, loving, and worried ....like worried when you have had too much to drink and hope you didn't say anything stupid....worried. Not that I was drunk and don't remember anything...just the day was such a blur that felt similar. Funny. And I cried at the generosity of my friends who voluntarily pitched in to MAKE the day happen. Too sweet. Don't question how you " think " you should be feeling, just go with it. Trust your decisions, trust your calmness and enjoy. This is it! And it will rock.

SuperRNluvsChef

Ah I can only hope I get that way.  I'm in a constant state of panic lately. 

khornbach

I hit then zen point the day before the wedding. But at a certain point I think you just have to know everything will owrk out, you can't do anything else. 

aabrahams7

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[QUOTE]You are completely normal! Everybody deals with this stuff differently. For me, I was incredibly calm and focused...... Like I was working on a creative endeavor. Which it was. Our whole event was free flowing and dependent on the trust of friends and family who helped out. We had a very DIY event.... No official vendors. Like I did not even know what the cake and flowers looked like! But it didn't matter. I am marrying my love. How hard is that? ( even though i am a creative control freak) the day after the wedding I was a mess! Crying, laughing, horny, loving, and worried ....like worried when you have had too much to drink and hope you didn't say anything stupid....worried. Not that I was drunk and don't remember anything...just the day was such a blur that felt similar. Funny. And I cried at the generosity of my friends who voluntarily pitched in to MAKE the day happen. Too sweet. Don't question how you " think " you should be feeling, just go with it. Trust your decisions, trust your calmness and enjoy. This is it! And it will rock.
Posted by TaffetaDarlingTaffeta[/QUOTE]

I love this... thank you!

Whew... I feel a little more at ease, thanks ladies!!

PoliceWife104

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[QUOTE]I hit then zen point the day before the wedding. But at a certain point I think you just have to know everything will work out, you can't do anything else. 
Posted by khornbach[/QUOTE]

Ditto this!

Enchanted616

Oh!  Four days!  I'm so jealous!

Haha, I was the same.  Not really nervous but not really super excited.. it was weird.  At that point, I was just so burned out from planning and details I was just.. I dont know, ready.  You are very normal. 

Looking back, I should have been more excited, knowing now how amazing that day really was!  You are going to have an awesome, amazing, wonderful, life-changing (obviously) day, just focus on that!