Late RSVP'ers

taye_84

Please let me know what I should do....My rsvp due date is 10.7.09 and I still have alot of people who havent rsvp'd. Some of them are family members, but others are extended family members who I could really care less if they show up or not. Should I contact all these people and ask them if they are attending or not, or should I stick to my rsvp card and let fault be on them because they cant pay attention to the due date. I'm already close to capacity and asking people if they are attending or not will possiblt put me well over my 200 limit. Help!!!!!

tbridetobe

You should probably check with them to see if they are coming because just because someone didn't RSVP doesn't mean they aren't planning on coming. They may have just forgot to mail in the card. But you don't want to not have a seat/meal/etc. for them and look like a bridezilla by being like, "You have to leave because you didn't send in your card on time!!"

Blondnette

When is your final guest count due for your venue? I would wait until the 9th to make calls. And I wouldn't assume they won't come...they just may! It's just hard to plan for something like this, people who say they'll come may not etc.

Duckyoflove13

Always try to contact those who don't RSVP my the due date, but bringing it up to people before then can make you come out to look like a bridezilla, when you're not. Cool your heels until the date and then start calling.On a side note, and I know it is too late for you, but it's never really a good idea to invite more than your venue can hold, as you never know who is going to actually respond yes. Sometimes it's the people you thought least likely to attend.

lindyd_03

Our final RSVP date was 9-25, and we've been calling/emailing to find out if people are coming. Many of them were planning to come even though they didn't RSVP. A lot of them said they lost the reply card. *rolls eyes*If you just assume they aren't coming, you could be in a bind when they show up and you don't have enough food. We are giving our final head count to the caterer next week though, so if we have anyone respond after that (a few people STILL haven't gotten back with us), we'll tell them that we'd love to see them at the ceremony, but unfortunately we didn't know in time to count them for food at the reception.

brookeyfrench

Ditto pp. Start calling Friday, you need to give the mail a few days to catch up. Some people see the RSVP date as a "mail by" date.