Bridesmaid's Jewelry

sapphirebaby926

My mom has been insisting that I buy jewlery for my bridesmaids to wear in the wedding. My bridesmaids have picked their own style dress, shoes, how they want to do their hair, nails etc and I was going to let them wear whatever jewlery they want. This is the one thing my mom has been hounding me on so I thought I'd ask you ladies your opinion on this. As a bridesmaid would you prefer to have your jewelry bought for you or would you be more comfortable wearing something you own already?Thanks!

tlv204

I'd prefer to choose my own jewelry, but just because I love accessories I would probably buy something new, not wear something I own already.It seems kind of pointless to have matching jewelry when nothing else matches.  Maybe you could get them jewelry that would look good with their dresses but is different for each girl? Same color/different style or something?

temerityjane

I know the party line on this - as an adult, bridesmaids are capable of choosing their own jewelry.For me, PERSONALLY, as a bridesmaid, I'd be okay with choosing my own (would likely opt for none) but would gladly wear anything purchased for me - I don't own any "formal" type jewelry and I would feel that what I do own would be completely unsuitable.That is juuuust me though.

SparrowSong

I find jewelry to be very personal and usually hate stuff other people pick out for me. Bridesmaid jewelry I've received in the past has gone right in the trash afterwords. Just nms, and usually cheaply made too. Nothing I'd ever wear again.I also think a gift for bridesmaids should not be something that's actually for the wedding. That's not a gift.

aerinpegadrak

I don't have a whole lot of jewelry either, so I'd be okay with getting jewelry.Run it by your bridesmaids, see what they think.  Maybe you could get away with getting them all a bracelet or something.

eastunder1

I would hate being told what jewelry to wear over being told what dress to wear.  Jewelery is much more personal of a choice.  To mandate jewelry after giving them free reign on everything else is just odd.  I would also bet they already have what kind of jewlery they want to wear with these outfits in mind.  Man up and tell your mom that you won't be doing that, but thanks for her opinion.  I would never, ever want someone to tell me what to wear over the option of being able to choose it myself, either from what I already own or decide to buy.  Who on earth would?

laurening

It wouldn't matter to me. I'd much rather choose my own dress style than jewelry. Now, if I had to purchase the jewelry, than I would care, but otherwise it would have to be really hideous for me to not want to wear it. However, I wouldn't make the jewelry the BM gift.   

redheadfsu

I'm with the jewelery is very personal camp. Honestly unless it is $$ i would prob throw it out after the wedding. If i got to pick everything else, i would find it odd. But i would not be mad or offended or anything. I would wear it, just find it odd.

jessiegirl_98

Where what I have UNLESS the bride was buying me something super cool. I generally hate the jewelry I've been given for weddings

Leah&Christian09

As a BM, I don't really care if you buy it for me or if I choose something I already own. Just don't buy me cheap jewelry that matches your wedding, not my style, and act like it's a gift for me. I can see where it could be cool to have coordinating jewelry that brings together all their different looks. When I wanted different black dresses, I wanted to get a piece of jewelry for each girl with their favorite color stone.

sapphirebaby926

Thanks ladies - my mom has brought it up on several occasions and I keep telling her that I'm not buying their jewelry. This has been the one thing she keeps bringing up so it made me a little unsure about my decision but I feel better about it now. I would much rather they wear something they are comfortable with because I'm not sure I could find something that they like and would want to wear again since we don't all have the same taste in jewelry.