Ain't this just a kick in the you know what...

BoxerMomma24

I just learned that my FMIL's dress has been discontinued and she is now searching for another one.  Apparently one of her daughters was holding off ordering it as she owns a bridal shop and my FFIL passed away in June.  My MOH and one of the BMs just received their dresses this week - the BM doesn't have her shoes as the FSIL with the bridal shop forgot to send them.  So forget the alterations.  Oh, did I mention the wedding is in 22 days???  So right now The only one that has a dress that fits correctly and shoes is me - I went elsewhere and my mom as she received her dress earlier and had her alterations done near home.  I'm beginning to wonder if FI's sisters will have their dresses ready in time.  FI's daughter is at college and is in the wedding... she's the one without the shoes.  Yeah, no stress.... and, I had to put my dog to sleep last night.  FI and I have to go for our religious education weekend retreat which we missed previously b/c FFIL passed the last time it was offered.  The past 6 months have completely sucked. I thought couples were supposed to enjoy the engagement period and wedding planning time.  Not us.  It has been all stress and anxiety. The only good news is on or around Sept 16 a litter of boxer puppies is due.  So I will be a Boxermomma once again come November.     

WildRumpus

Couldn't she just buy another pair of shoes from somewhere else? Do they HAVE to have matching shoes? That seems to be the only thing holding alterations back, yes?

crfische

Sooo...you're stressed out about shoes. And shoes have made that whole last six months suck?You're doing it wrong, spazzmatazz.  

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Why does she need those specific shoes for alterations? Couldn't she just use a shoe with the same heel hight? So sorry to hear about your dog.

danieliza1127

I thought couples were supposed to enjoy the engagement period and wedding planning time. Not us. It has been all stress and anxiety. Well put it in perspective, it's not like getting engaged is some magical thing that puts a protective bubble around you where tradegy and stress can't get you.  Life continues.  Your FI's dad died, that's terrible.  So understandably your FI's sister was a little shook up over that.  Just follow up with her nicely and ask about whatever it is that isn't in yet and find out when it will be in.  22 days is plenty of time for alterations if the girls take the dresses to local places to get the alterations done, if they even need alterations. 

BoxerMomma24

I couldn't care less about the shoes.  She could go barefoot for all I care.  The thing is, the poor kid ordered shoes but can't even get her dress altered b/c her shoes aren't in.  She's away at college and can't come home until sometime next week for alterations.  The MOG doesn't have a dress.  One was picked out but now it's discontinued.  I doubt the other BMs got their alterations done - I was relying on the BM who owns the bridal shop who promised everything would be in on time.  She's also a wedding coordinator.  Now I'm glad I handled everything else for mine.   

cdeshane

Sorry about your dog. That's sad. Don't know what to say about the rest.

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hight = height

cdeshane

One of my girls had her dress done without her shoes. She just used a similar height, as already stated. A lot of dress shops have trial shoes right there.

maylane

Don't worry, 3 of my bridesmaids came from overseas and had their alterations done the week before the wedding. It may not be ideal but its definitely do-able.

fangsiting

Your dog and FFIL dying are pretty stressful things & I'm sorry about that, but as far as the other stuff is no big deal.  Why are you even worrying about what other people wear?  You have a dress that fits & shoes--that's really all that matters. 

WildRumpus

Yeah, this is why you don't rely on family or friends for wedding-related things. My mom found her dress for my sister's wedding a month before, no big deal. Alterations are also easy to do. Call around. The shoes may just be a loss, have her buy another pair.

danieliza1127

Just breathe.  You are stressed, and emotional right now because of your dog.  The one without shoes can just get a different pair if they aren't in when she gets her alterations done, or use a pair with the same heel height.The mom whose dress was discontinued can go to any department store and find a different dress and buy off the rack.  The most important thing is that you and your FI are getting married.  Period.  The rest will fall into place.  No one will show up naked at your wedding.

lyndausvi

I was in an OOT wedding.  I showed up on Tuesday for my alterations.  They were done by Thursday for the Friday wedding.   The salon worked with me because they knew I was OOT. We made the plans months ahead of time so it was planned and not just a bridezilla emergency.  Mailing the dress to St Thomas was way too risky.I'm just saying it can be done if you arrange it ahead of time.

SwedishChick2011

I'm sorry about your dog.  That's really sad.  As for the dresses and shoes, I think it will work out fine.  And if not, oh well - at least your dress is ready and you'll look great!

ZRex

I'm sorry it has been so stressful. :-(. Twenty-two days is waaaay longer than you think...everything will work out. I think you're probably sad about your dog. Why don't you do something nice for yourself to cheer up? And fi and I are dying to get a boxer once we move out of our place! Are you a breeder?

ZRex

Didn't mean to sound opportunistic... We're not looking anytime soon...we both just LOVE boxers!