Don't you wish someone would've told you

isnatural4me

fill in the blank ___________Mine are: 1. how much catering costs2. How annoying haggling with vendors could be 3. How great you feel after the proposal!4. That people can be extremely selfish and self interested5. That everyone, even strangers just loves to go to a wedding...lol

isnatural4me

oh and that some of the most harsh critics are those not contributing and those who have never planned a wedding.

mandapanda78

to stick with the original Maui wedding idea.

ilovemyco

That eloping is just as romantic as a big wedding. And big weddings are a waste of money,.

georgia_bride09

1. to elope or JOP it with a family dinner afterward, and you'd listened? I was far too along before this option presented itself. I would have grabbed it with both hands and run (ran? runned?) had I known...

crfische

what the winning lotto numbers were for Saturday?

amethystanima

to elope and then just take a ridiculously extravagant honeymoon to Europe.

tengma07

that vendors hear "wedding" and see $$ that people hear "wedding ", and think they're invited, even when they've never met or spoken to you (like your #5...)that mothers who never had their own wedding will try and live through yours

tengma07

oh yeah I have to ditto the eloping too.... could've been a little closer to a house or a super honeymoon

vicmo5

That weddings=drama no matter how low-key.

lily5727

No matter how much you try to please people someone will find something to be dissatisfied about.

Kati0105

1. that despite you never ever caring or dreaming about weddings, you'd become obsessive about every single detail.2. to insist upon a low-key Vegas wedding.  See #1 for reason.

missy68

that even if you didn't get stressed out about the wedding, everything around you would begin to wear you down about a month out. that people will judge/dismiss your 2nd wedding especially if they haven't met your FI (and God forbid, it is happening in Vegas......)

aerinpegadrak

Heh, my low-key Vegas wedding is still pretty expensive, though thankfully it has thus far been low-drama.I don't have anything to add, except that I now have that awful "don't you wish your girlfriend was hot like me" song stuck in my head, and I blame this thread.

airidh80

That a long engagement doesn't mean you'll be less stressed over planning. It just means you'll be stressed for a longer period of time.

engaged2Q

how tired I would be 12 days out from the wedding from working on the wedding to-do list that even if you are laid back about the whole thing, you will still, very likely be ready to get it over with at some point that I should stop answering my phone several weeks before the wedding because every other call will be about who is sitting where/ who isn't invited, etc...

diamondgrrl5

Ditto!  Reading all the replies certainly made me feel better knowing that I'm not the only one.  Of course, I don't know that I'd be as happy to elope but the thought has crossed our minds many times when someone starts nitpicking details that they a) aren't contributing to so why do they have a say and/or b) they aren't the one getting married so it's not their decision anyways!  Pardon my rant but I feel better!