Several issues I'm not sure about, please help

aronie82

Issue #1 - I'm not convinced it would be cheaper to DIY the food then the caterers we've found for around $13 per person.  We love Chipotle and we're trying to decide if that's tacky, and/or a cheaper option

Issue #2 - We've lived together for almost 2 years and have almost all of the household items we could want or need.  If we have a small registry is it implied we would prefer cash?  Is it rude to add a note the registry list explianing we would like to take another leap and purchase a house which is why the resgistry is small.... and that we would appreciate help in that way... ie cash!

NOLAbridealmost

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[QUOTE]Issue #1 - I'm not convinced it would be cheaper to DIY the food then the caterers we've found for around $13 per person.  We love Chipotle and we're trying to decide if that's tacky, and/or a cheaper option Issue #2 - We've lived together for almost 2 years and have almost all of the household items we could want or need.  If we have a small registry is it implied we would prefer cash?  Is it rude to add a note the registry list explianing we would like to take another leap and purchase a house which is why the resgistry is small.... and that we would appreciate help in that way... ie cash!
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</div><div>Your gut is correct on both counts. You can probably more easily and cheaply do the Chipotle than catering yourself. And it would not be tacky at all.  Who doesn't love Chipotle?!</div><div>
</div><div>And, yes, it's implied that you would prefer cash if the registry is small. Guests will figure that out on their own and there's no need to include any other explanation (in fact it's rude to). </div><div>

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button6004

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[QUOTE]In Response to Several issues I'm not sure about, please help : Your gut is correct on both counts. You can probably more easily and cheaply do the Chipotle than catering yourself. And it would not be tacky at all.  <strong>Who doesn't love Chipotle?! </strong>And, yes, it's implied that you would prefer cash if the registry is small. Guests will figure that out on their own and there's no need to include any other explanation (in fact it's rude to). 
Posted by NOLAbridealmost[/QUOTE]


Chipotle is the spawn of Satan.

heb557

Have the food you want at your wedding. Just make sure to have an array of stuff so there is something for everyone..

Simply do not make a registry, people will get the point.  And mention nothing about preferring a cash gift.

myname1234

How formal is your wedding?  I don't think Chipotle is tacky, but I think it would be hard at a wedding.    Do you plan on pre-made burritos (if so, how do you know the guest preferences on sauces, etc) or do you plan on a buffet sort of idea?

Hinting about small registry = wants cash would be rude to do.  I'd pass on that if I were you.

aronie82

Thanks for the advice.  It was honestly my idea to say we prefer cash, but now that I've said it out loud, I hear how tacky it is.

I imagine the Chipotle would have to be buffet style.  Everyone likes their burrito just a little different.  But I think we coud DIY the chips, rice, and guacamole and save money that way.

And since I absolutely love Chipotle, having a chicken bowl on my special day would be perfect!!!

Avion22

Chiptole is fine. I would love it.  Just make sure you have options for people.

The small registry is fine.  People might ask your friends or family members what to get you, and they can say something like, "They don't need much, but I know they're saving up for a downpayment on a new house."   

tpender13

If your wedding will be a bit more casual, and you think that the majority of your guests would enjoy it, then Chipotle is okay. I would only side-eye this if the rest of your wedding was super-fancy... like if you were wearing a ginormous ballgown and I was sitting on a $4 chair cover looking at an ice sculpture centerpiece. I'd be pissed if you fed me a burrito at that wedding.

HeathenSwan

Go with Chipotle. It'll be a lot easier on you, and likely cost less as well.

Don't register for things you don't need. If you have a small registry, it should be fine. Where I come from, the rule was "presents for shower, money for wedding". It's not like that here, though. We are both old (well, mid 30's) and have two households worth of stuff, so we're going to register for some things that we need and leave it at that.