Good morning!
So FI was talking to his best man/brother last night on speakerphone (which is just inviting me to be nosy!) about the bachelor party. His brother kept repeating how FI should just invite everyone whether they are invited to the wedding or not - just invite all these guys and the more the merrier!! At first FI insisted he did not want to do this because it was rude and he would feel awkward saying "yea your invited to celebrate my wedding with me but only sort of becuase your not invited to the actual wedding." (Plus an old friend of his already sent him a msg asking if he was invited to the wedding and to let him know asap so he can make travel arrangements - he's not! awkward! And FI doesn't want to be in that spot again!)
But then as the convo went on and brother brought it up more... FI was swayed. Bro gave specifics like "well how bout Joe?" and then FI was all "oh yea Joe I haven't seen him in forever but it'd be great to see him again!" and so it went...
Should I step in and tell FI to insist to his brother that they ONLY invite those invited to the wedding? Or should I stay out of it and let the boys handle it themselves? Is it normal for bachelor parties to just invite all the guys (i'm guessing many guys - not all - are not as aware of e-rules to know it's a faux pas?)?